AITAH for not having a wildly expensive and strict itinerary for my partner's birthday?
I off-handedly mentioned tomorrow is my partner's birthday to one of my coworkers and she asked me "What are you guys doing tomorrow?" I told her I didn't know yet because it was up to my partner because it's their birthday. She proceeded to give me a lecture on why I'm actually a shitty boyfriend and should have had plans for months by now and that my gifts aren't good enough. This coworker is now genuinely mad at me for some reason.
Am I crazy? I got my partner so many things that I know they like for their birthday. They don't like wildly expensive jewelery, they don't like huge surprises, they don't like when they lose autonomy on planning especially on big events and THEIR BIRTHDAY. That's why I when I asked them what they wanted to do I suggested Dinner of their choice on me and we can come back to my place, I'll give gifts and we can go from there with whatever they want.
My coworker chastised me and said "No it's on the man to plan everything. Why would you want them to think on their birthday? Why would you want to stress them out this much? You're not going to get any dinner reservations at anywhere nice at this rate. If I was your girlfriend you wouldn't see me again if that's how you treated me on my birthday." WHAT ARE YOU TALKING ABOUT? I FEEL LIKE I'M LOSING MY MIND.
Their job has been spiraling out of control and I just wanted to give them small nice things (that were for the most part not cheap for the record since how expensive the gifts should be were brought up for some reason) and a relaxed evening where they can do what they want on their day
So yeah AITAH for trying to be a good boyfriend and give them their day to enjoy?