Escaped the emotional abuse but it feels weird
It’s been almost 3 months since my abusive ex and I broke up. While I wasn’t perfect and made my fair share of mistakes, none of her reactions were justified. I went through a year of her screaming at me for small things like getting water on the counter, knocking over her water bottle, who was on my social media following (not even anything bad, all just friends or old friends). She would try and coax reactions out of me by insulting my friends and had some sort of superiority complex over me socially because she thought her friends were cooler than mine. I was called names, blamed and accused of things, hit a for being myself, and when I raised my voice back it was “how dare you speak to me like that”.
The reason I’m bringing all this up is because I’m finally starting to date again but it feels weird. I know how to avoid that situation and am capable of advocating for myself after therapy but I was always too scared of speaking up in that relationship and calling my ex out. Part of me resents my ex because I never got to snap and call her out on all her bullshit and I really want to. How did you get over this feeling of wanting to let your ex know every single way they were awful to you?