My (23F) Husband (29M) is telling women we’re in an open marriage.
My husband and I been together 3 years ( tl;dr ) and he told me early on into the relationship that sex with me was boring. I offered to explore his kinks. He said he enjoyed having someone to watch us as we engage in intercourse. I had never done it nor desired it but I was willing to try to save the dynamic of the relationship.
It was short lived- because as we were getting it on, he would message the girls during and send videos but would not involve me whatsoever. I did not know what he was texting or their responses. I eventually told him it made me uncomfortable so we stopped.
Well the desire for him came back up again with a co-worker. He ended up kissing her and groping her breasts, I had initially wanted to try it but once again felt uncomfortable. I told him I felt betrayed as the groping was done with me present but the kiss was behind my back.
He has tons of girls on his Snapchat still and is friends with multiple people he has had intercourse with on Facebook. He also would not stop being friends with the girl co-worker after I asked him multiple times. I gave up on it and thought I was being dramatic since I’m the one who said it was okay to try.
Now recently I’ve cheated. Admitted it and felt awful. I didn’t even like the guy. I wanted to break up with him then. I know I’m not in love with him anymore. But his reaction and threatening to destroy my things made me stay.
I looked through his phone again recently and just the other day he’s flirting and messaging this girl through discord and has led her on to believe we are in an open marriage and that we “share girls”. This is not true nor has it ever been. He then sent her a photo of me as well I guess to show me off? I was extremely uncomfortable, but have not confronted him about this yet.
I did something wrong so I feel as if I have no right. They didn’t actually send nudes and the conversation died after she admitted to having a husband as well. I just want to know if he would do something if given the opportunity or if he’s just flirting and trying to live out some fantasy?
I’m just lost right now. Any advice is greatly appreciated..thanks in advance. :,)