AIITW for wanting my girlfriend to stop accepting rides from her coworker?
my girlfriend (26F) and I (27F) have been dating for almost a year, she started to work at a restaurant 5 months ago.
4 months ago she told me that she felt like one of her coworkers was trying to flirt with her (he asked her to the movies) so she told him that she had a girlfriend and talked about me in general, she thought that he would back off after that but that made them closer. She noticed that after this information he was interested in us and ask her to tell him all about me, so she didn't felt this as a threat anymore and more like an opportunity to make a new friend now that she was sure that he wasn't trying anything.
After weeks he started to offer her rides to work (she would take a bus and then he would pick her up at the bus stop), which she accepted. I didn't have a problem with this at all, it sounded useful and even obvious if they were heading to the same direction. The problem started a month ago.
She trains basketball on Fridays (far away from her workplace) and he started to give her rides there after work, which started to not make a lot of sense for me because this was actually a big detour from where he lives. He started to picked her up and leave her even closer to home and has even offered to picked her up at her house (Which again is pretty far from where he lives)
My break point was yesterday when she came back with a new wallet, one that he bought for her, this is where I talked to her about how uncomfortable this situation has become for me.
I actually trust my girlfriend very much (I know it doesn't sound like it) I trust what she told me about him being just a friend and that he's become someone close because they work together and see each other every day, she told me that she can stop accepting the rides if that makes me feel better, but I know deep down that she wouldn't feel comfortable doing so because it is saving her so much money and right now she needs it.
I feel like an insecure loser and I know that she will keep creating relationships with new people and that people are going to care about her and do things for her in the future , so part of me tells me to shove it off. I only feel like it is escalating to a point where I don't feel comfortable. My girlfriend is very chill and is never insecure because she trusts me so I feel like an AH wanting to ask her to stop. I know if this was the other way around she wouldn't have a problem and she would even feel happy of me being able to save money by someone kindness.