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English isn’t my first language so I apologize for any mistakes in advance.

Today my (18 y/o) sister (23 y/o, whom I’ll call Susan) was told by oldest sister (40 y/o, Lizzie) that our mom (60s) wanted her gold jewelry back to sell it for extra money so mom would be able to travel (I think my mom gifted to her). Lizzie was obviously upset over this and told her no. My mom said some mean things to her and closed the door in her face. Now, my dad (60s) is a very furious man and he’d do anything for my mom. He goes and threatens to take Lizzie to court if she doesn’t give it back. Lizzie tells him that she sold it for 9-12k. He tells her to pay mom back but that’s a large sum of money and Lizzie has been looking for an excuse to move out (it’s looked down upon in our society to move out as woman if you aren’t married yet, and will likely affect you). My dad, mom, and oldest brother (30s) left to go have lunch. My other brother (30 y/o) genuinely doesn’t care. Susan and I have no clue what to do. We know that Lizzie will be able to support herself financially but this situation is shit and we don’t know how to support her, and she didn’t want our help and she’s not telling us where she’s going. I’m honestly really pissed off and unwell right now so this might not make sense.

Thank you for reading, any advice would be appreciated.

Tw: suicide mention

(For context I’m 18 y/o with no income)

After I attempted my mom started paying for my therapy sessions (first time I go to therapy if that’s relevant). I was raised to believe that my siblings and I were financial burdens; we would get most of our physical needs met but were reminded that we owe them and that everything was expensive. So, naturally I’ve grown to value money a lot, and I think all of us do that as well. My family has avoided telling me how much these sessions cost because they know I’d start feeling bad about it, but one of them told me how much it was (for privacy reasons I won’t disclose but it’s quite a bit). I’ve been feeling bad about it and my mom wants to sell some of her stuff for extra money to travel. I’d say we’re upper-middle class so we’re pretty well off but it still feels like shit. And now my therapist wants me to get diagnosed for meds which costs even more which gets me to feeling like I should trash the whole therapy thing.