Need help on setting up getting out.
Im in a fucked situation where im out of my depth, I have lots of family that use this site regularly and I cant give all the details(but family is the issue)
Im not in physical harm at all but the psychological is past the point of any hope, I only realized how bad it was after seeing a handful of mental health professionals this year when I initially went for OCD, two caught the abuse basically in the same month late last year(guess where the OCD came from)
Since then ive been trying to figure out the best way I can get out, a part of it seems easy but other parts are not.
Im hitting a snag on what am I supposed to do when it comes to mailing and an address, I dont think I have the time to set up a lease and it might be hard, my credit is "good" but its secure only and I cant get a real one for 9 months and my history is very basic. Im not sure if that gets pulled up.
I dont think I can handle another month here at all.
I have a job but pay is only 17$ and I do have around $30,000 in savings and no debt(this is minuses another $10,000 since its going to a car, so literally $40,000). Cheap is too dangerous here to live, but the col also isnt low either outside of that. No furniture but a nice bed thats mine that I cant take with me, its Queen sized.(ill probably abandon it because its just gonna turn into a no win game getting it)
No car but I have the funds for a used car outright and have a really reputable dealer in the area. I have insurance but its connected to my abusers, and a license.
I have my own bank accounts but I found that a CC was open in my name under an Authorized User a decade ago and I had NO consent or knowledge of this. I did have it removed and thankfully it seemed like it was actively being used but also paid off(mostly, every month seemed to always have < $100-$50 on average left on it.
I managed to remove this but now im freaking out because im not sure if I can freeze my stuff when I need to get a car, a place, insurance, all in this short time frame, same applies to my SSN. I know its possible but not sure if its a good idea right now when I most defiantly need things that use them in the upcoming immediate.
Basically this is what I need help with.
Setting up my own car insurance, how to get a new address, where to send my mail, and changing all my bank/important information to this new stuff, but freezing it and keeping it all safe somehow. I dont know the order at all in which I should proceed.
I completely forgot this stuff this entire time.
Should I use my current address since ive been here so long for insurance? Does it matter? How long does it take for an address to be considered yours? Same with mailing. I have doctors and prescriptions and all this stuff.
I need a chunk of this ready to go so I can do the last part of making sure they give me ALL my personal documents and cut off entirely, im not afraid of calling the police if needed, im not in threat of physical danger and I now know its psychological.
Im very isolated, the abusers alienated me behind my back taking any relationship I had with one side of my family and destroying it. My professional help said its generally NOT a good idea in my situation to try and fix it(basically my abusers have what I would say, far more social power and standing than I do, im a full blown scapegoat)
My other side/friends is just from my PoV, NOT a good idea, not in a place in life to help me with this.
My plan right now is to get a 1 month airBnB to cool off and have some buffer time to figure more things out.