u/Throwawayaccount5934

I (27M) was the person who posted here to vent and shout into the void, because my then fiancé (30M) used an AI jury to determine which of us was right after a (recurring) argument and refused to discuss the subject of said argument further because the jury determined that he was right and I was wrong.

It is not very exciting or dramatic but suffice it to say my relationship with my now ex-fiancé is over and we will not be getting married. Our wedding was supposed to take place on the last Saturday of November but I have cancelled everything and tried to get back whatever money I could.

My ex-fiancé seemed to be genuinely shocked when I told him I no longer wanted to marry him. I don't think he's that good of an actor so I don't know why he would be shocked considering how much we argued before he used the AI jury. After that, he refused to talk to me about it no matter how much I tried and I was truly at my wits send end.

The argument was about chores and housework. I'm a solicitor and more often than not my work means I can't do my job remotely. My ex-fiancé works in human resources and his job is exclusively remote. But I ended up doing all the cleaning and other chores. I was not looking to make him do everything or for us to keep score over who does what. I just wanted him to help. I was responsible for most of our expenses because my salary is much more than his, so I felt financial pressure and the pressure to keep our flat clean and in order. It got to be too much and since he wouldn't discuss it with me and kept on harping about the AI saying he was right I ended things. I can't even describe how much less stressed out and tired I am now. Honestly my only regret is not leaving sooner.

Thank you to all who sent me supportive messages and left me supportive comments on my other post. They were appreciated.

My (27M) fiancé (30M) used AI to determine who was right after we had an argument and now he says he was right and I was wrong. He told me he used an online AI jury to find out which one of us was wrong. This 'jury' said he was right and now he won't talk about the argument because the AI said I'm unreasonable.

I'm angry and frustrated and at my wits end. I feel like screaming every time he time talks about AI agreeing with him. We have had the same argument multiple time. Instead of discussing the last time we argued he shuts me down. I'm just here to shout into the void because if I don't I will lose my mind. I feel like my relationship is crumbling and my fiancé won't even try to do anything about it. This morning he was so smug about it I left to go stay with my sister. I couldn't take him talking about AI when I tried to discuss our argument.

(Since I know people will ask our argument was about chores and cleaning. I'm a solicitor and more often than not my work means I can't do my job remotely. My fiancé works in human resources and his job is exclusively remote. But I end up doing all the cleaning and other chores. I'm not looking to make him do everything or for us to keep score over who does what. I want him to help. I'm responsible for most of our expenses because my salary is much more than his, so I feel financial pressure and the pressure to keep our flat clean and in order. I don't talk to him with anger and I don't act differently because I earn more than him. But he refuses to help with chores and now he says the AI told him he's right and I'm being unreasonable. I can't take it any longer. I just want him to help so I'm not doing everything).