How to feel masc during sex without feminising NB partner
I'm a non-passing trans man (27) and I realise that in order to feel masculine during sex, I often feminise the partner I'm with, eg. by how I touch them, take the lead, and dirty talk to them. I'm poly and have a longstanding partner who is a genderqueer man who loves being feminised during sex so that works fine with him; however, I've been getting closer to a really hot NB person and I think things are going to move in that direction soon. I know I need to communicate to find out what they like, but what I'm unsure about is how I can feel masculine during sex if it turns out they don't want me to do anything that makes them feel feminised (which would be perfectly understandable). I wondered if anyone here has been in a similar position or has advice. I think I also feel a bit vulnerable because I haven't had sex with anyone new since coming out as a trans man and don't even entirely know what I would like (my longstanding partner and I are extremely comfortable with each other due to how long it's been, but I think I might have different feelings to do with my body and dysphoria with a different person). Help!!