u/TiTi_emergencyskills

As per the title.

I am a 25 year old Punjabi female born in the west. Not Surrey/brampton vibes, think much more white overall. I did grow up in a small Punjabi Sikh community, went to the Gurudwara every weekend, I speak Punjabi and can (very badly) read Gurmukhi.

All of that being said, I feel like I don’t understand enough about Sikhi. I don’t understand gurbani. I’ve attended countless Anand Karaj’s and still don’t really know the meaning of any of the laavs, until I google the English translations and remind myself each time. It obviously doesn’t stick.

My mum does phaat (sorry I don’t know how to spell it) but we’ve never been an overly religious family so it wasn’t passed on the same way it was in other families. I also learned Gurmukhi in my late teens so wasn’t much opportunity before that either.

I know all of the basics, but there no deeper level of understanding for me.

When a family member was in India earlier this year, I asked them to bring back any written gurbani which had both English translated AND transliterated beside each line. I’ve been successsful in finding some of these online, example:

[https://www.hariomgroup.org/hariombooks\\\_shastra/Japji-Sahib/Japji-Sahib-GRE.pdf\](https://www.hariomgroup.org/hariombooks\_shastra/Japji-Sahib/Japji-Sahib-GRE.pdf)

But she couldn’t find anything like this. I thought if she brought it back and informed me (and also I’d ask my parents) how to keep it respectfully, handle it etc that would be better than just printing out whatever I can find, which feels a bit weird? Not sure.

Okay, anyone who lasted this long, thanks.

My question is about any resources, any suggestions, anything anyone can offer who may have been in a similar boat. English is the only language I understand completely. I’m fluent in Punjabi as I mentioned before, but it just isn’t the same and especially reading Gurmukhi doesn’t come naturally to me. I hope it will as I try more, but I’m starting with simple novels - gurbani is just too difficult as a reading learning tool. I more want to learn about Sikhi and gain a better understanding, but in a form that I can understand and digest.

If anyone has any suggestions, please let me know.

(AI generated beyond this point because I can’t condense my words lol) **TLDR:** 25F, grew up Sikh but not religious, speaks Punjabi and reads Gurmukhi (slowly). Doesn’t understand gurbani or its meaning beyond googling translations on the spot. Wants resources to actually learn Sikhi and gurbani in a way that sticks, ideally in English or with transliteration, plus advice on handling/storing gurbani respectfully

Post this is r/Sikh today but been awaiting mod approval for a while so trying here too

F25 Born and brought up in Brisbane but never been to The Caxton on a game night. Was thinking of going with some friends for game 3 but literally none of us have even been out at the pubs when a game is on, so we’re trying to figure out if we’d actually get in with how busy it’ll be.

I know there’s the $250 dinner package which means you just keep your seat for the game, but if I can avoid the $250 then I’d prefer to hahaha.

So, line up wise, how early would we need to get there to get a seat by the time the game starts/a little earlier?

Also, if one of my friends finishes work late, can the rest of us go in and save her a seat or it’s proper club style and she’d just need to wait in the line until she gets in herself?

Thank you to anyone who answers, and I do acknowledge these questions are kinda dumb for someone literally from Brisbane, so sorry in advance!!!

F25 here. I can’t do this whole living with husbands parents thing as a set expectation after marriage. To me, it’s not about not wanting a good relationship with in laws or anything like that- I quite literally just don’t like the inequality side of it. Aside from the wanting my/our own space etc etc part of it that everyone talks about and I do agree with, I simply cannot get over the fact that if I followed tradition and moved in with a partners parents after marriage, the implication is that my parents are not as important because I am a woman. I’d be happy to do a situation where both our parents live with us somehow OR the ideal being that we live somewhere between them separately and visit and invite both sides often. Then, when they are too old to be independent, we take them in (both sides, doesn’t matter who needs help first).

I am not coming from a place of evil where I want to destroy a man’s relationship with his family. I simply want the same back that I am expected to put in. But it seems, to most brown families, even though I & these potential matches are born and brought up in a western country, having this opinion as a woman is cruel and categorises me as a problem. I just cannot understand why a man can expect me to up and leave my home and parents to move in with his, but if I even suggest the same thing it’s like I genuinely committed a crime?

It just feels disrespectful to me. I feel like someone who respected and loved me as a partner wouldn’t ask this of me without even a conversation, yet every man I meet it’s simply the expectation and I get looked at weird if I question it.

At this point idk if I’ll even get married, or at least not within the community even though that’s always been my preference, but I cannot defer on this.

What are the thoughts of the wider community here?

Edit: my experience is within a Punjabi community in a predominantly white and English speaking country

Been applying for months to no avail. Updated my Linked In a little bit just randomly, just basic stuff like uploading a new resume (didn’t even use it to apply - just uploaded to profile privately). A recruiter accessed it (didn’t know they could do that) and called me. Did an interview 4 days later and landed the job, 90k + super in an industry I have no experience in - pretty much they’re transitioning to a software called Salesforce which I have experience using (not programming or anything) so I think that helped.

I don’t really know if I want to stay here, but it’s been 3 weeks and I’m having a fun time at work. Even though it’s not my usual industry, there’s a lot of growth opportunities and this isn’t really the sort of economy to say no to a job in.

It’s a super weird feeling to get a job so randomly, feel weird about it because it’s not *exactly* what I was looking for, and also know so many are struggling to even get a reply (just like I was before this).

Idk just a weird story to share. Anyone else had luck with recruiters approaching you?