The Idea behind International Dating
Recently I came across this group, and started over analyzing the idea of passport bros and why some may choose to date internationally. My apologies English isn’t my first language so my grammar can be poor at this. This is just truly something I just thought about so not necessarily trying to educate or argue with anyone, just truly food for thought. Please feel free to give me a piece of your mind in the comments.
Coming from someone who’s been pursued by white man, Took me years to debunk the idea that marrying white man was the solution to my issues. Passport bros genuinely see it easier and more likely to get with a foreign. As people from their own country may have higher expectations. Of course! Look at nature. In lions only the strongest and fittest get to be leader. Their young have to fight in order to prove themselves enough.
Most of the time Americans-Passport bros go to “third world countries” to pick the prettiest one but also the one more open to international dating.
I’ve seen many cases of women in my life who lived in poverty or stood on the lower income classes growing up until a white man came and took them to America.
It’s truly not only about how it’s easier to convince a foreigner their regular life in their home country can offer a better living situation than the one the foreigner had back in their homeland. Taking advantage of younger women with poorer socioeconomic status and adding them to their (passport bro) life. Because obviously they’re not going for the ones that live in their own country already.
In some cases, sure it’s a win-win. Foreigner has a “better” life circumstances than they would’ve had back in their country. And the Passport Bro now has a “hot, young and exotic wife”. But after the process of moving, paperwork filing, paying fees and other many things one must do in order to safely and legally bring someone to America. Now comes the reality of struggling to adjust to language, new cultures and adjusting to a new economic system.
As an immigrant, coming with my family was hard enough to do so by ourselves. I was lucky to have my mom, my dad and my sister as a support system. But I when it comes down to a single person moving to a whole new country I can only imagine how scary it can be. Even worse when the possibility of your significant other becoming another person than you thought they were when you first started dating.
I have read no studies but have enough knowledge from people I’ve met along the way, that these “possibilities” can totally be someone else’s reality. So finding and retaining a community can be very helpful to those who come “alone” to these countries. Maybe that’s why some people from certain countries find it easier to “hangout” with people from similar if not the same cultures.
I’ve noticed some cases can’t be helped. You go to a country and can fall in love. Same way I now feel attracted to Asian men, if I were to travel to any country and found someone who I find worth going through these process for, I wouldn’t be able to help it and attend to do so. Or even visit the idea of moving to their country to pursue a relationship.
Overall, the Idea of someone actively visiting third world countries in order to “get with women” or even “finding a wife to bring home” is generally predatory and irresponsible behavior in some sense. You truly never know who you’re getting with, and that can apply both ways.
My conclusion is that international dating can be challenging and can be difficult for most but never impossible. It comes with risks and can be almost like gambling. Personally I think one can only judge and study these case by case situations. As sometimes it can be benefiting both parties, but can also turn into a nightmare like that one Colombian woman who ended up getting murdered and stuffed in a suitcase by their American partner.