r/passportbrolifestyle

America has always been the shinning beacon of prosperity and democracy for the last 100 years or more. But the world is changing and so is America. I still love this country but for you young guys looking for love outside of the US you may want to consider working and living outside the US also.

If you look at the statistics America is behind every country for things like education, standard of living, crime, cost of health care, etc. The only thing America leads the world in is Military Spending and the number of people incarcerated. The other countries, Asia in particular, have grown and prospered and are better places to live with all things considered.

Now will a young girl from Asia know all these stats, probably not. But what she will see is how beautiful cities like Seoul, Beijing, Singapore, etc. are. Why would she come here when she just stay in her country. I am not bashing America, the stats speak for themselves. I am trying help you younger guys for your future.

The other thing you have to consider is that bringing a girl from another country is difficult for the girl. I know this because I have been married twice, both of my wives were from outside the the US. My first wife was from Lithuania. She struggled because things here were so different form the former USSR (Lithuania used to be part of the USSR). My second wife is from Mexico. She is actually considering moving back mainly because of the cost of health care. So while we may think America is great, people from other countries may not think so. Your young wife may have a hard time.

Just trying to bring a different perspective to the Passport Bro lifestyle conversation. I think we all enjoy traveling to a country where we are treated better and can have some fun. But in the end I think we are all looking for love and a lifetime partner. In this, there are many things to consider, economics being one of the most important aspects of your future. And for reference, I am almost an Economist (a PhD dropout) and have worked for the government for 35 years. I look at these stats all the time, I see the changes.

I wish you guys all the best.

Pop

Those of you who have travelled to southeast Asia, how far ahead did you use dating apps to set up dates? got a trip coming up next month and looking for advice from the experts, not the dudes who have never left their town in Nebraska please or the hey try the cold approach crowd, that is certainly not happening.

I know it might sound desperate but I get a lot of attention I just never act on it. I also have a lot of matches in tinder and even premium messages and hookup offers (usually after a few messages) but I dont trust the girls in the apps.

So I would like to finally meet some women IRL not from the apps. Any tips? I think i prefer indirect game but open to anything. If direct i would probably just ask if they are single because I have respect over locals and due to being so much richer I would not mess with a local guys girlfriends as its simply no fair competition.

I get some attention in europe too by women but here its a lot more of course, so any tips? Whats some ways you have used, some messages, some openers, lines or are you just a natural and do it all freestyle?

Not interested so much in bargirls and all that.

Also where do you go? I found the local university so that seems a good bet also the surrounding cafes and fast food places are packed at certain hours with girls, it almost feels too much like you are on display lol

So actually I just want to find one good woman, or test a few out just getting to know them. But i have difficulties even approaching women that smile at me or drop other hints but can get over it.

Any practical advice would be super appreciated. What have you done that worked? What was some of the best/funniest ways you met girls here?

I am 65 and have seen how the Asian countries, South America to a certain extent, have grown economically and in standard of living. I know that in the past the income disparity and living conditions were something women would marry a US citizen for. But will all our issues in America today do you guys who have traveled to Asia still think women want us Yanks for our income? Serious question. I travel mostly to Europe and have not been to Asia in over 20 years. Just looking for boots on the ground experience. Thanks Pop

Im a ethnically german and a normal white guy, light brown hair and eyes.
Will it matter to asian girls if I have a slight or strong tan? I read conflicting info on here.

I have now dated East, South, and Southeast Asian girls, women from India, Vietnam, Indonesia, China, and South Korea. There is an incredible amount of diversity among them all, it is impossible to generalize hundreds of millions of women, of course. Yet, there is one common denominator among them that I tend to find again and again, and it is that these women from these countries all have a profound level of insecurity related to their ethnicity or race, and all have varying degrees of self-hate. I won't go into detail of how it came to be, some will argue it is a leftover from colonialism, others will say it is the consequences of +5h daily TikTok use that is the average among young women everywhere nowadays, ensuring constant self-comparison with the likes of Sabrina Carpenter and Sydney Sweeney.

How this insecurity manifests itself is of course very different from person to person. But after spending time and getting to know thousands of women from the aforementioned countries, it became clear to me that they had a very hierarchical view of the world and race, where those with European looks were at the top, and they themselves were below them. I never understood this. I found their natural tan skin to be very attractive and a sign of vitality, and I always thought these girls would look even more attractive if they were spending more time in the sun and getting sun kissed. But in all of Asia, from India to Japan, this is heavily frowned upon among women, where the beauty standard is being as White as possible. I thought it was ridiculous for my dates to have a sun umbrella when it was cloudy and a UV index of 5-6, but they considered it close to a social death sentence to get any colour.

I also grew tired of their constant self-loathing comments, like how all of them, completely unprompted, would tell me how they thought their own nose was so ugly deformed and that my nose was so perfect. Southeast Asian women would tell me how they wish they had a more prominent nose bridge like I have, and East Asian women would tell how they wish they had a smaller nose like me.

There is nothing more exhausting than to be with someone who hates themselves and wish they looked different, and this seems to be the case for the majority of these women. I have never experiences this dating fellow Scandinavians.

On a side note, I also became disgusted at how the wealthier women in these countries would treat their fellow countrymen with such disdain, just from being middle or working class. The social strata is more prominent over there, but in my opinion, this nastiness was also a mirror of how they saw themselves and their countrymen.

I'm moving to Brazil for 6–12 months (possibly permanently if I end up loving it), and after a lot of research, I've narrowed it down to three cities:

• Belo Horizonte
• João Pessoa
• Natal

A bit about me:

• 37-year-old European
• Previously lived in Thailand for 5 years, so I'm already sure I enjoy living abroad
• I'll start Portuguese classes as soon as I arrive
• Budget: around R$12,000/month
• Looking for an upper-middle-class lifestyle
• Rio, São Paulo, and Florianópolis are outside my budget

My priorities, in order:

1. Dating (I'm interested in meeting attractive, educated, fitness-oriented local women. I'm not interested in the sex industry.)
2. Outdoor lifestyle (beaches, running, gyms, weekend trips, etc.)
3. Cost of living
4. Safety (relative to Brazil)

My current thinking:

João Pessoa
Pros:

• Beautiful beaches and beach lifestyle
• Affordable
• Close to Recife, Natal and Maceió

Cons:

• Might feel too small after a while?

Natal
Pros:

• Same beach lifestyle
• Affordable
• Close to João Pessoa, Recife and Maceió

Cons:

• Might become boring?
• Is it overly touristy compared to João Pessoa?

Belo Horizonte
Pros:

• Huge metro area with a much larger dating pool
• Probably more restaurants, nightlife, and events

Cons:

• No beach
• More expensive
• Fewer nearby weekend destinations

My biggest question is whether the larger dating pool in Belo Horizonte actually outweighs the beach lifestyle in João Pessoa or Natal.

Does BH have a noticeably better dating scene for someone looking for attractive, educated, active women, or does the healthier coastal lifestyle in João Pessoa and Natal make that assumption wrong?

For those who have actually been to these cities, which one would you choose, and why?

I'm especially interested in the beauty and quality of women + a fun, active lifestyle.

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Social media platforms like Instagram have inflated women's ego and self-perception to an extreme degree. They no longer find men with average looks attractive; instead, they seek relationships only with men they perceive as superior and more attractive. funny thing is its a mindset that has resulted in a large number of leftover women and low birth rates.

I took particular note of this interview. These Chinese and Singaporean women state that they find no appeal in the normal asian face.

This creates a strong demand for exotic men from abroad. The simple fact is that an average-looking Western man is worshipped in China, Singapore, and South Korea simply because he falls outside the mold of the "normal Asian face."

Ultimately, it is lookism that has fueled the PPB trend.

I saw a post made by a woman and as usually she's ill intentioned and has ZERO clue what it's like to date as a man in the current landscape. Let's not tolerate women doing their shit in this subreddit, ban them as soon as possible.

Because once they infiltrate it, they post their opinions based on their reality of having thousands of men on dating apps and always try to discredit men for their reality. Kick them out do not let women in this subreddit.

This video includes women's point of view too. But it is also very honest and contrasts New York City vs. the South. Wherever we look though, we are in a mess.

It is A Guardian video episode in their global dating crisis series noted that in the US, 60% of young men are single and sex is at a record low.

The comedic timing is impeccable. We have more tools for connection than any previous generation and simultaneously the highest reported levels of disconnection.

It is sad but funny. I have discussed these issues over and over again, but it is great to see outside researchers - liberal researchers in fact - come to similar conclusions.

I found #2 first, but I will post #1 soon.

Please, leave a comment if you have seen these issues yourself.

I feel like two years ago I had went on another exhausting date and realized American women aren’t it for me. I’ve had better success traveling abroad and meeting better looking and caring women than in the states. When was your moment?

I get hundreds of likes on the app, but most seem to be freelancers. One woman even told me she was a freelancer, then later matched with my older friend and told him she wasn’t. How do you usually filter out freelancers and ladyboys on dating apps?

Recently I came across this group, and started over analyzing the idea of passport bros and why some may choose to date internationally. My apologies English isn’t my first language so my grammar can be poor at this. This is just truly something I just thought about so not necessarily trying to educate or argue with anyone, just truly food for thought. Please feel free to give me a piece of your mind in the comments.

Coming from someone who’s been pursued by white man, Took me years to debunk the idea that marrying white man was the solution to my issues. Passport bros genuinely see it easier and more likely to get with a foreign. As people from their own country may have higher expectations. Of course! Look at nature. In lions only the strongest and fittest get to be leader. Their young have to fight in order to prove themselves enough.
Most of the time Americans-Passport bros go to “third world countries” to pick the prettiest one but also the one more open to international dating.
I’ve seen many cases of women in my life who lived in poverty or stood on the lower income classes growing up until a white man came and took them to America.

It’s truly not only about how it’s easier to convince a foreigner their regular life in their home country can offer a better living situation than the one the foreigner had back in their homeland. Taking advantage of younger women with poorer socioeconomic status and adding them to their (passport bro) life. Because obviously they’re not going for the ones that live in their own country already.

In some cases, sure it’s a win-win. Foreigner has a “better” life circumstances than they would’ve had back in their country. And the Passport Bro now has a “hot, young and exotic wife”. But after the process of moving, paperwork filing, paying fees and other many things one must do in order to safely and legally bring someone to America. Now comes the reality of struggling to adjust to language, new cultures and adjusting to a new economic system.

As an immigrant, coming with my family was hard enough to do so by ourselves. I was lucky to have my mom, my dad and my sister as a support system. But I when it comes down to a single person moving to a whole new country I can only imagine how scary it can be. Even worse when the possibility of your significant other becoming another person than you thought they were when you first started dating.

I have read no studies but have enough knowledge from people I’ve met along the way, that these “possibilities” can totally be someone else’s reality. So finding and retaining a community can be very helpful to those who come “alone” to these countries. Maybe that’s why some people from certain countries find it easier to “hangout” with people from similar if not the same cultures.

I’ve noticed some cases can’t be helped. You go to a country and can fall in love. Same way I now feel attracted to Asian men, if I were to travel to any country and found someone who I find worth going through these process for, I wouldn’t be able to help it and attend to do so. Or even visit the idea of moving to their country to pursue a relationship.

Overall, the Idea of someone actively visiting third world countries in order to “get with women” or even “finding a wife to bring home” is generally predatory and irresponsible behavior in some sense. You truly never know who you’re getting with, and that can apply both ways.

My conclusion is that international dating can be challenging and can be difficult for most but never impossible. It comes with risks and can be almost like gambling. Personally I think one can only judge and study these case by case situations. As sometimes it can be benefiting both parties, but can also turn into a nightmare like that one Colombian woman who ended up getting murdered and stuffed in a suitcase by their American partner.

I have been approached in the past by european guys, i think the main factor for them finding us attractive or coming to our contries is because they find us easier to charm than the woman in their native countries, so why do you come, out of curiosity honestly?

Where can I find Black or Asian goth girls?

Just booked first trip to Thailand. Landing in BKK mid-Sept. I have the Hilton rented in Pattaya for the second 2 weeks of the trip. Thinking of going to Phuket that first week. Had a coupe of questions regarding Phuket (not nearly as much info here on Phuket as Pattaya).

1. Best places to stay in Phuket (guest friendly). Obviously want to enjoy the nightlife but also want to do touristy things while there as well.
2. Do girls in Phuket fancy the nice hotels same as the ones in Pattaya (from what I’ve read).
3. I’ve heard there is no need book flights from BKK to Phuket that you can just get them at the counter in BKK as needed.
4. Best bars in Phuket to socialize and meet the top notch girls in Phuket.
5. Lastly, best source of local currency. Coming from USA, bring cash or rely on cards. Is AMEX regularly accepted in Thai.

Thanks in advance