[US] WI Summer Custody of 16YO
I have a 16YO son. His dad moved 1.5 hours away when our son was 5 and just about to start kindergarten. Our custody agreement is structured during the school year so our son goes to his dad’s every other weekend and we share most school breaks. For summer, our agreement states time should be shared “as close to even as possible. Mom may have more time due to child’s work/sports obligations.”
Our son has been expressing a desire to spend more time at my house this summer so he can work, do the school workout program (to get ready for football that starts in Aug) and spend time with friends. His dad wants the time to still be split evenly.
I do believe it is important for our son to spend time with his dad and the schedule I proposed would allow for 8-10 days of time at his dad’s each summer month. Our son does not want to be there any more than this. He enjoys spending time with his dad but wants to prioritize working and wants to be a normal teenager!
Has anyone else been in this situation? Is it unfair to expect a 16 year old to spend half of the summer 1.5 hours away from his friends?