Advice from people that got to this point
My husband and I had some marriage issues and over the past 6 years or so our sex life hasn’t been good. My husband has rejected me and reasons are because “I do not make him feel respected”. Mind you he also has a history of domestic violence and he had a drinking problem and he has since gotten better from both.
So I have made sure to show that I do and I dress in sexy lingerie, I’m fit, people tell me all of the time how attractive I am. Well the man at home apparently doesn’t think so.
So at this point, I now am no longer attracted to him. He doesn’t give off sexual energy to me and the rejection has just caused so much hurt. I’m super horny and for me time is running out as I am a female and menopause quickly approaching even though I am on HRT
I have told him many times our marriage is dead. We are roommates at this point. There is no passion, no male/female energy. That’s why I’m not attracted to him. He doesn’t give off any sexual energy to me so there’s nothing for me to be attracted to.
He told me the other day he feels like I think he is just my business partner. I told him yes I don’t know what you expect we don’t have a “marriage” anymore we are just friends. I said I don’t even know why we kiss goodnight at bedtime. It just feels weird and a “task” like we don’t kiss at all other times so why then? Cause gottmans said to?
So I am giving up on any lingerie or hopes that we will have a sexual relationship anymore. I’d like to hear how it has gone for you after you give up any hope but still stick around.
I am sticking around because I don’t feel like upheaving my entire life right now. My job is exhausting and I’d rather focus on just getting my life organized and finding hobbies and maybe some religion. I want peace.