u/Tometreader

I imagine this question comes up frequently, so apologies in advance!
I’m a current undergraduate student who is very interested in being a GC, but a lot of the threads here look discouraging….REALLY discouraging. Should I even consider this field if it’s so highly over saturated? For those of you who went to or are currently in GC school, would you pick this career path if you were given a chance to restart?
I realize the job market is pretty bad for everyone right now, but I’m scared I’d be jumping into a career with zero stability 😅

I’ll try to make this post short and simple!

I (f, mid-20s) have a very close (I would go so far as to say he’s my best friend) male friend who I have developed romantic feelings for. When we first met, I was VERY adamant that I only wanted friendship and he was totally comfortable with that. Now that we’ve known each other for a while I have started to realize that I really do have feelings and I don’t know what to do about it.

This would be an easier decision except for a few things: We met online and live several hours away from each other, but we talk nearly every day (we have had FaceTime calls too, so I know he’s not a catfish or something 😅). We’re also both in some sort of schooling, meaning we’re both busy and have limited financial resources. I know that I would probably be the one who could move the soonest, but that could still be up to 5 years from now.
My question is this: Would it be cruel of me and/or useless to admit my feelings knowing that we’d be long distance for a while? (Assuming he would be interested in me that way—which I think he might) We’ve been able to stick it out as friends but I’m afraid that the pressure from me just admitting my feelings would be too much, especially because I know both of our academic/familial/financial situations could be roadblocks. His friendship has been so valuable to me and I’m genuinely terrified of doing something wrong or hurtful.

I’m open to hearing from anyone and everyone!