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Hello everyone.

I have been dealing with autoimmune diseases: psoriatric arthritis and autoimmune interstitial lung disease. I also have stage four endometriosis with diaphragmatic involvement.

I've always had the endometriosis and those symptoms but I noticed something about when my autoimmune disorder symptoms started.

In 2023 my 23 year old younger brother died from a drug overdose, followed by my grandmother dying from covid in a nursing home then I got pregnant, got married and had a miscarriage during the wedding.

After all of that tragedy I kind of layed down in a depressive state for six months. Afterwards I got up and got a job.

I am realizing now that after those terrible three events happening back to back to back was exactly when my autoimmune symptoms started. I looked it up and found that yes you can definitely activate an auto immune disorder with grief. It really sucks that something made me so fucking profoundly sad and I held it in and turned it inward to the point that my body started attacking itself.

Now that I've made this connection, I will be seeking out EMDR (?) the PTSD reprocessing type of therapy. Does anyone else have a story like this?

Did tragedy precede your autoimmune diseases coming out?

Hello all. I have psoriatic arthritis, interstitial lung disease caused by autoimmune involvement and am in the process of being diagnosed with hashimoto's and if not that, having my thyroid removed because it's so swollen it's obstructing my airway. I also have stage four endometriosis with diaphragmatic endometriosis as well.

I do my best at work but yes, I have been missing a lot of days. Everything was going fine and I was doing my best when all of a sudden the boss started making comments to my manager about me being distracted and burning through my PTO. My manager is my husband's best friend so he did say that I am sick and seeing doctors, it's not like I'm having fun on my PTO. I am painfully aware of the work I am missing.

Since that conversation between them though, rules have been specifically applied to me that aren't being applied to anyone else. I think partially because my manager is trying to protect me but I also feel fucking discriminated against.

I can't prove anything though and there's no HR at this company and I don't think there's anyway to prove what I am feeling so strongly based off vibes.

It just fucking sucks. I even feel like there's some aspect to it from how I dress too. I frequently don't feel well enough to wear anything but sweatpants or leggings and I feel like as a woman I am looked at as messy or unkempt but if a man does it he's just a dude.

I fucking hate the situation I am in. I'm a great worker. I've never had a boss/owner of the company not like me before and it's really bothering me.