Help me get revenge
My(37) husbands(38) family has always been much more present in our lives than my family. This is despite the fact that his family does not live near us but mine does. Mine just doesn’t show up for things. The one thing my family does though is gets together every few months to drink and hang out.
We were arguing about the kids / sleeping, etc. I asked if I was “allowed” to wake him up to go to my family party this evening. He said “yeah all we do is go out there so I can take care of the kids while you get drunk.”
I do drink when we go out there, but again, this is only once every few months and I’m not throwing up in the yard, I’m just drinking and having a good time.
So my question: what’s the best petty revenge here?
1- go without him
2- not go at all
3- go as planned and don’t drink
Edit to add a few details:
When we are with his family, I take care of the kids. That’s the rule. I don’t complain about it and I certainly don’t use it as fuel in an argument.
He constantly complains about my family. I know they are not perfect but the ones inviting us to the party are the only ones who actually try to show up to things. These get togethers are what I look forward to the most as it’s my dads family but my moms family all lives in different states.
I am tired of feeling like everytime I leave the house, he has a problem with something- gone too long, didn’t buy something he needed (but didn’t ask for), just drinking with your family, etc. some of your comments made me realize this is about more than this event. I just need to talk to him about why it upsets me.
But I do appreciate the other option of getting really drunk and becoming a big problem 😂