Adopting a Waiting Child
Hello all! I wanted to hear stories about people who might have gone through something similar. My husband and I (28f 30M) are strongly considering adoption to add to our family. In particular, we would be interested in adopting an older "waiting" child. I want to hear stories from others who have done similar.
For context, I grew up in a single parent household with a mother who made it known that I was an accident and not wanted. I have been through lots of individual therapy to better understand my childhood, and it has given me a unique perspective on life, and what it truly means to be a family.
Neither my husband nor I have a strong desire to have an infant, and while it would be neat to see what our genetics produced, I don't think I would feel like we were missing out by not having a biological child. In short, what excites me about being the parent is the ability to show love to someone else and help them grow in any direction they want.
We wouldn't be adopting for another few years (5-7). I know adoption brings as many, or sometimes even more, challenges, but we are prepared to learn and grow. I also never really understood the argument that adopted children come with problems and therefore you shouldn't adopt. You can have a biological child with serious needs as well.
Has anyone else adopted older children from their states waiting children list?