Isolation/overworking as an ADHD adult
Hey all,
I wanted to see if anyone else on this sub struggles with overworking/self isolation?
I'm 29M, diagnosed ADHD early, never medicated or treated specifically for ADHD. (Mom was an addict and did not want to expose me to meds, etc.) For about 6-7 years I have had this issue where I basically keep 3 jobs at a time.
I have a 40hr week job that ensures bills, insurance, etc. are paid. A side job doing web development and light IT support for a local small business, and I tattoo at a street shop on my weekends.
Most of my social life has basically been hanging out with my wife and her friends or my tattoo clients. Otherwise, I'm basically just at work, thinking about work, and trying to get more work.
This eventually caught up to me. Last month I quit both the IT job and Tattooing to focus on my 40hr week job (and help my mental health).
My wife has been on a vacation with her family for her grandpas 80th birthday. (I was invited but alas, work) While she has been away, I've realized that I pretty much have no friends of my own anymore. Mostly because, I simply stopped responding to anyone not directly related to work, tattooing, or my wife lol.
Now that I actually have some breathing room in my schedule.. I'm not really sure what to do with myself. I'm not sure if it's even appropriate to hit up old friends. How do people even make friends in 2026? lmao
I'm not even really sure what I'm asking. I guess I just want some tips on making friends post-workaholism and perhaps tips on limiting my anxiety about not constantly making, building, managing, etc.
Sorry for the long post, and thank you to anyone that responds to this mess lol