I [26F] don’t know how to tell my long distance situationship [32M] that I “slept” with someone else…
Hi I’m lost and i need some advice. Long story short I’ve been seeing this guy for a little over a year but had to move a few hours away about 7 months into our situationship. we both decided long distance wasn’t for us but we just can’t seem to stay away from each other. We have never had a talk about being exclusive or anything like that. but we make points to see each other and keep in touch.
He’s making the drive (7 hours) to come visit me in a few days. Here’s the messy part. Last night i went on a date with a guy, it was going well and i was a little tipsy so he came back to my place. I told him I didn’t want to have sex and he said that was fine, well fast forward to us hooking up he stuck his penis inside of me. I immediately told him no and he stoped. he wasn’t wearing a condom.
The issue is this man i’ve been seeing i really like a lot, I can see a future with him. AND the kicker is i saw him 2 weeks ago and we didn’t use a condom, so he’s going to know i was with someone in the 2 weeks in between… last night was the first time ive hooked up with anyone but him. me and this guy never use condoms but are always open with each other about getting tested and things like that. I don’t have time to get screened for any STDs before we comes, so do I call him before hand and tell him what happened and that we will have to use a condom? do I wait until he gets here to bring it up? I just feel so nasty and guilty about the whole situation. I don’t know if he’s been seeing other people but I don’t want him to drive all the way here and then get upset.
TLDR: seeing each other for about a year, i really like him. hooked up with someone else a week before im supposed to see him. never use condoms. do i tell him before he drives 7 hours to see me or wait till he gets here.