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Mindset Monday

Perspectives, are a strange bag to carry. To exemplify more precise, I am by no means a candidate for Road Rage, but have to admit that those vehicles that speed past me, must be operated by reckless daredelvils, while those who drive much slower than me, are an accident waiting to happen. That my speed and style of driving is somehow the standard, and norm, on how to drive in the appropriate manner, although absurd, is one many of us hold.

A general rule in my clinical practice, is that the person in the therapy chair, has their own identity, memories, learnings, and experiences of THEIR existence, and as such deserve the respect for the road map of their world as it has developed.

No good or bad, no right or wrong, just a non judgemental acceptance that this is their perspective. Similarly, the loud blare of a horn and the middle finger salute, I may receive from time to time, to remind me that I am not the expert driver I think I am, a person's comprehension of their world and the morphing of their perspectives are open for changes as well, and sometimes to the judgemental culprit.

I write this as both operator and observer, a very peculiar seat, recognizing in my reflective times, that I have held my opinions, thoughts and actions to a higher more credible standard that perhaps others. I have also experienced when someone else operates in exactly the same manner for themselves, much to my chagrin.

So as both human and hypnotherapist, I can admit and understand, and using myself as the best example I personally know, use the lessons to modify my perspectives and increase my compassion.

I am curious who may write or comment, but always welcome the questions and feedback.

Be well

#motivationmonday #mindset

#perspectives #hypnotherapist #mentalhealthadvocate

Thursday Thoughts

How many trips, stumbles, wrong answers, failed attempts and rejections does it take to abdicate the goal? I find it interesting, in comparison, how selective we can be, in choosing what is worth the time and commitment and what is not worthy to follow.

We are all intelligent beings, able to figure out what is a lost cause right? The fact that we had a dream, and idea or goal that inspired us is not sufficient cause to after it as best we can and discover where it takes us, what we learn along the way and how to adjust and amend the next efforts right?

Just think about walking, speaking, reading, writing, driving and a shit ton of other achievements you learned through trial and error. Each and every one filled with failures and disappointments, but we persevered through them all.

We are aware of the selective hearing that we refer to, people will hear what they want to hear, see what the choose to see in order to feel the way they decide to feel, which provides a Eureka moments, when you realize that "if it was meant to be, it is always up to me".

You are so worth the effort, and commitment, don't be the first one to write you off, or eliminate the value of your wants, goals and dreams.

Yes, help and outside input is valuable, but moreover your determination is indispensable.

Be well

#therapythoughts #ednhypnotherapy #resilience # motivation #youareamazing

Wednesday's Wisdom

Unfortunately, my first comments made are the Ipso Proviso: in no way, shape or form am I endorsing or advocating any religion or belief system with this post.

Alright now that the CYA is dealt with, lets get to the message that was inspired by this image. It appealed to me for some obvious reasons, as a hypnotherapist and mental well-being coach, firstly that in the presence of talent, positivity, or wisdom there has probably never been an instance where an individual has regressed in that environment.

I am thinking Mensa as a flagrant example. Or one of my favorites, if you want to soar like an eagle you cannot flock with the turkeys.

Imagine the kind of person you would like to be, and seek those who exemplify that mindset or identity. NLP ( neuro Linguistic Programming) was largely developed in the ideology that you don't have to re invent the wheel,that when you study enough people who are great at what they do, you will find some very strong common denominator and characteristics.

Instead of spending your time by trial and error relearning perhpas these common lessons, jump to the head of the line with these Coles notes.

Surrounding or staying in a population of negative Nellies, or Whining Wilburs, will not advance you one millimeter towards feeling joy and peace.

Make the change to be the change.

Perhaps a cop out for me, but I remember vividly going through my first divorce, that a hope I held onto as part of the legacy I have left behind for my children was that if you are not happy or content in your circumstance it is only yourself that can change that scenario. You are responsible always for how you feel.

On this day of Cosmic wonders, I share this with you.

Good, bad or Ugly, I firmly believe that our step into being empowered is wrapping our heads around this incredibly freeing notion.

Be well

#wisdomwednesday #ednhypnotherapy #perspective #empowerment #mentalhealthadvocate

Tuesdays Treatment

Continuing from my analogy of the microscope, from yesterday's post, shows up these beautiful images, highlighting a different perspective on focus.

I think that these genre of images, were truly, incredible art, to be able to see in your minds eye, and image, built within an image, and being a part of a larger image. And now the art form has expanded to body portrait, with different areas being painted differnet textures and colours, so when combined together , in just the right pose is a beautiful representation of a butterfly or leopard.

Then we have the spinoff in finding the number of cats in a picture,which is always frustrating as you get to about 85% and can't locate the last 15 to save your sanity.

How doea this all relate to therapy, emotional-well being or mental health, although finding the last few cats or where Waldo really is, taxes my mental health at times?

Im the realm of optics and optical illusion, how easily our vision, and seeing things really xan be dupped so quickly, that what we see, or think we see, may be too close to take in the "bigger picture" or we are scanning too much to appreciate any of the details.

I confess it is probably one of the most beneficial attributes that drew me to becoming a hypnotherapist, as the treatment is not predicated on your content, I don't get to be drawn in to your stuff ( we will go with that word) or the story you have practiced over and over to make it a part of your reality.

Objectivity allows me to take in all the components of your communication, what your mind is truly relaying, and what is the perceived threat or deterrent holding you back from accomplishing what you want.

Every now and again take those deep breaths in, exhale all the tensions and take a new look at the microcosm of your world. Be it relationships or work place, it is so very natural to get fixated on one focal point.

As always I look forward to your questions or comments.

Be well

#treatmenttuesday

#yegtherapist #perspectives #perception #Hypnotherapy

Meaningful Monday

I decided very early this morning to change the title from Mindset or Motivational Monday's to Meaningful, juat because, variety can be the spice of someone's day!

The more I read this, the more it flooded my mind with the recollection of times in my life I was chasing something or someone.

As part of our maturity or evolution, or perhaps the rationale introduced as we age, creating our own opportunities, joy and prosperity, is empowering, as opposed to chasing someone or something, isn't it?

By the very phrase chasing after my dreams, begs the inquiry, how come it does not want to be caught and embraced? The follow up in my mind comes, does that allow for the deviation of pursuing, as our goals change over time?

From the therapeutic process, I love the analogy of being like the old aingle barrel microscope in our functionality. We open to zoom in to really focus on the inner strife, the smallest of microbes infecting the cell and other times rolling it out to see more than a single cell, event or thought. Observing more information on our slide.

When we engage and participate on our activities and efforts, in lieu of "landing" on the right position or circumstance, it brings everything back to you and your control. The byproducts, to use another of my favorite analogies, is in filling your cup prima facia, the resulting overflow splashes over those around you.

So perhaps today and if not tomorrow, begin to enjoy, and exercise, execute the purpose and meaning which makes you feel delightful.

Always, feel free to share your comments and ask your questions.

Be well

#meaningfulmonday #ednhypnotherapy ##yegtherapist #empowerment #emotionalwellbeingcoach

Wisdom Wednesday

It would appear, we exist in a very noisy environment , full of chatter and ramblings, with everyone seeking their 15 minutes of fame or atop the soap box daily.

I am not sure if white noise even enters into the the communication equation, as in my opinion it is just a tremendous amount of noise.

Maybe you have noticed as well, the external conversations I have, mostly involve the other participants listening for their argument points, instead of hearing someone else's thoughts and perspectives.

As a hypnotherapist, I can admit that I use both the hearing and listening modes of your communication strategically. The vocabulary, the context and the message, all aiding me, to better understand the framework or roadmap of your world. There were a few leaders who really advocated our Other Than Conscious Communication skills. Secondly, I hear the story you tell, to more fully comprehend the clues on what is the snag in the carpet, the barrier or roadblock to your journey.

As a side note these skills are not readily appreciated by spouses, over long term usuage.

It has been reported, that while engaged in meditation, or trance, the chatter of the outside world grows silent, and our internal world quiet. You see I believe strongly that a contributing factor to our communication noise pollution factor, is nestled from the inane chatter that takes place and commands our insides. The ever-growing, panicked need to be heard, to be understood and acknowledged, due largely in part to our internal dialog being so incredibly obnoxious and nasty.

As this is under Wisdom Wednesday, the wise and enlightened people's of the world are notably the quiet ones too.

Coincidence, I think not!

Defensive, combative and argumentative are not healthy cornerstones for communication amongst oursleves.

How about you?

In that spirit I will repeat, I look forward to your comments and communication with me.

Be well

#wisdomwednesday

#opencommunication

#yegtherapist

#mentalhealthcoach #ednhypnotherapy

Feelings Friday

Perhaps too early in the day to be this deep, however this depiction and phraseology, summarize what I have spent 20 years practicing. I don't know for certain if the majority of mental health therapy follows this pattern but I can say that I personally boast no great talents, or magical techniques, what I have latched on to is the unwavering ideology that when "I get You out of the way of You, long enough for a You to come up with a different way" amazing things can happen.

Even in our own language patterns we have recognized the nonsensical inner battles we engage with, catch phrase like will power, and being torn in a decision, go to show we have the capacity of being Yin and Yang, both wolves, and both Dr Jekyle and Mr Hyde, daily. It is in fact, our having the capacity to higher intelligence and more complex thoughts and concepts, that is our greatest gift of development and our worst sentence to suffering.

Many a brilliant minds and wise enlightened souls, have alluded to the benefits of fluidity, to experience a more tranquil experience of life.

I can attest very much to the concepts that when focused and fixated on a feeling or thought, our senses will join the orchestra and continue to fuel or feed that symphony. Not that it has been an issue personally, for over 45 years, but when was the last time you over slept, woke in a panic and had the rest of the day proceed smoothly?

Like NEVER.

There was only the one variable that changed... YOU.

There is hope, always to move towards an inner peace and harmony, life is not to be anchored in strife.

I look forward to your questions and comments.

Be well

#fridaysfeeling

#emotionalwellbeingcoach #yegtherapist #hypnotherapist #motivationmindset

Therapy Thoughts

I was doing an interview the other day, and was asked what part of my work, my career, made me happy?

Perhaps it was the frame of mind I was in, but my answer was a simple" all of it". Although the answer is straight forward and short, the meaning behind it, I think deserves a little more explanation, to fully appreciate.

If you ask how I am, the answer for pretty much the last 30 some years has always been " unbelievable!". There were 2 initial reasons behind this stock answer, one being to know if you were actually listening or it was lip service being paid. Secondly I abhor mediocrity, so I could be unbelievably, scared, happy, annoyed, bored, sick etc. but it was with flair and enthusiasm. For those who are members of the big "C" club or any life threatening situations, you may understand the commitment to appreciate life.

Getting back to the ingredients that make me happy, following the themes if above, is not fixated on outside events or occurrence, but on knowingness that happiness is indeed an inside job! A component, and important aspect of being more empowered is using that power to improve the way you experience YOUR TIME in the flesh suit. So engage in activities that you can FIND something to be happy about or SEEK a different activity.

This isn't meant to gloss over the mundane activities or tasks of a job, or the horrible bosses the dreadful pay, ir anything else derogatory, BUT, the understanding that the energy expended on fixating and bemoaning, can also be used in a positive manner. This realization may be what catapults you to searching or exploring other avenues or venues, or a different degree of appreciation to being employed, getting paid , and being able to provide and contribute, for in every city there are throws of people, entire neighborhoods filled with individuals who would be thrilled to have those opportunities.

So part of this is a "how to" on bullies and bad situations, perhaps not how to live your life, but I hope an alternative on how to approach it.

I look forward to your comments and input.

If you are curious about how you can modify those thoughts and feelings, let me know.

Be well

#therapythursday #yegtherapist #emotionalwellbeingcoach #happiness

Friday's Feeling.

Recently my writings swirlaround the theme of different aspects of being that warrior.

How the pitfalls, challenges and hardships, we encounter, we endure, and if you are reading this, we survive, go to develop a more learned and resilient person. Through all of life's situation and turmoil, how much of it in the moment do we even recognize that it is tumultuous or is it another Thursday?

Similarly, the patterns we observe, that we engage, are reflected in an concept of pain alleviation. I am not referring to the glove anesthesia, which I learned early on in the trainings, but moreover, that the very use of the word " pain" brings with it several added components, and discomfort substantially less.

The patterns we enact are a reference to past, when did we last experience, what was our memory of that experience and were there any coping or reactions that we recall which are useful.

Our present involvement in the experience. For those who have been involved in a MVA, time and perceptions seem to enter into a time warp of sorts, everything slowing down and very surreal, never actually feeling any alarm or panic. Just in the moments. Strife and trauma, have similar characteristics, we don't label them as such, identify or even contextualize, in those moments, it simply is what we are currently moving through( very ABRAHAM in my head when I wrote that.) and we await what is to come next.

There is the future projection, placing what we just experienced as template in future cases and scenarios, perhaps it is those moments , that the learnings are born.

There is a Japanese art form Kintsugi, which displays with brilliant gold, the mended cracks and fissure of cracked pottery, recognizing and honouring, there is beauty in the imperfections. I truly believe we are the very same, it is the damaged and bruised, which have a deeper understanding, a broader wisdom, as they have proven time and time again, they are not only survivors, but warriors.

Perhaps all of the above is the ramblings of just this author and clinician. It is how I approach my therapeutic and pragmatic lives, and I am very OK with it.

Recognize, and embrace how totally Badass you really are.

Be well.

Treatment Tuesday

When we think about motivation, it usually involves the rah rah rallies, walking over hot coals, and bursting with self validation, right?

I have been to plenty motivational speaker shows, when younger, to attest, atleast for myself, that by the time I got off the plane from the return trip, from wherever the convention was held, that I had dissipated a good 30% of my "shish boom bah", in like the 5 or 6 hrs at FL280. I doubt it was the altitude that evaporated it.

Therapeutically, I realize that there are fundamentally 2 mechanisms for motivation, one being the forwards motivation, working towards a desired goal and results and the other is the pain based motivation, where the circumstances are more uncomfortable than the fear of change and comfort.

Both have merit, and purpose. However the real talent is to transform that motivation into a discipline or routine, and maintain that inertia, vs returning to old habits, justification and rationalization.

As a hypnotherapist, I have the advantages, to know that you found me, that the issue of motivation is already in action, by making the phone call, or reaching my DMs. There is a level of dissatisfaction with your current status quo, and although it be sometimes, undefined, that generalized feeling, that things in your life could be better, smoother, or different, remains unresolved.

We transform and transition from the motivation to seek something to a series of steps, excercises and procedures to lead you towards that unknown, as easily and unencumbered by the stinkin thinking as we can. That is the beautiful paradox of hypnotherapy, your current limitations are in your head, and your recipe for change also exists in that very same space.

So when someone says "its all in your head" smile that knowing smile and realize that is your best kept secret, you have the ultimate power of your thoughts and life.

I look forward to your questions, comments and feedback.

Be well

#treatmenttuesday #hypnotherapist #motivationmindset #emotionalwellbeingcoach

Therapy Thursday

Words matter.

Context matters.

They are the fuel that ignites our perceptions and TBH, if it is the English language, then you must be even more cautious, and aware , deciding the intent of the incoming messages in deciphering the words being used.

Sounds exhausting doesn't it? However it also predicates active listening skills, the ones to comprehend and understand. Instead of seeking the bullet points, for rebuttal.

I am almost positive, that from a therapist, atleast a mental health version, that our words, our vocabulary, syntax, and structure, are some of the most valuable instruments we have at iut disposal, and in all honesty , the only instruments.

The adage of sticks and stones, actually doesn't apply, if it ever did, to our overall well being, and that is only regarding our one on one, external world. How about the vocabulary, syntax and structure of your self talk? You understand that with the outside world , you can tune people out, use selective hearing abilities, but our internal dialog is inescapable.

I firmly believe that is, speaking of fuel, what has accelerated the draw and fascination with the 90 second sound bites, the maze of bells and whistles, with so many media choices. Our ability to continue to, in the old days, turn that dial to find a frequency attached to a radio station that appealed to our mood and disposition of the time.

Having the ability to scroll through, to swipe left, etc is all foundational to distract and occupy.

How does any of this relate to your last mistake you may wonder? It is simple, mistakes have taken on the meaning and association to being a negative experience, when in fact, mistakes are the very core of every learning and developmental step we experience. Without mistakes, how would we have the comparative?

Look forward to the privilege of experiencing errors and mistakes, they are testament that you are learning, involved and engaged.

Be well

#therapythursday #ednhypnotherapy #yegtherapist #wordsmatter

Wisdom Wednesday

This struck home as soon as I read it. Perhaps, in large, it is the reason for those of age to be more sagacious, and learned. We have the benefit of surviving so many stupid stunts, living through some incredible challenges, and heartbreaking losses, to be in a place and a mind, which has that deep, abundant pool of resources, experienced first hand.

However, it is more universal that wisdom isn't it? Everything we learn, had a cost to it. Scraped knees, bruised bumms, frustrated minds, and so much more, all reminders if the price tag attached to that particular lesson.

Like some open markets, in those hot exotic places, the price paid doesn't quite match the quality expected or anticipated, but still a token was aquired.

Here is what I also acknowledge, that is there is no sale price ir deal found ever on these lessons, like a rare bookstores, finding a first edition, treasure for $ 9.99. No our wisdom comes at full pop every single time.

How does this relate to therapy, you may adk. The takeaway, my intention is, to remind you that the angst, tye emotional burdens and the discomforts you experience are both validation that you are still very much alive( and that is a grand thing) and that you are going through something which has merit and a message attached.

Perhaps such high levels of reluctance and push back are only prolonging your education curve.

But then again what do I know of such matters, sitting here in the early mornings, sipping on my cup of Joe, pontificating the world I created for me.

Hope this helps for some.

Be well

#wisdomwednesday #yegtherapist #learningcurves #lifeslessons

Treatment Tuesday.

Perhaps, one of the most valuable resource I learned, through both my training as well as my practice life, as a hypnotherapist, was the concepts of being a filter and not the sponge.

Have you ever noticed that being around negative nellies, is depressing, it is a challenge to remain objective and calm, whilst being surrounded by higher, random, all over the place, 1000 different thoughts going on is exhausting?

There is a reason for the "Not my Zoo Not my Monkey's " comments came about, and was popularized, for certain.

For myself, I recognize that being a sponge to the energy around me is a passive activity, I can get caught up in the drama, as easy as everyone else, and there is a long list of psychological quirks that I trip over, which are my triggers and point me to where the healing, understanding are needed.

Being the filter is not passive in any way, protecting your emotional state, your understanding and your feelings, requires active participation, and engagement.

The rewards are so worth it though, keeping the emotional vampires at bay, and having the knowledge that you get to determine your disposition and mood.

The difference between sympathy and empathy, is observer or participant, which is most applicable, for each has their place and use.

With multiple streams of negative, critical, bias, opinions floating about, I think it a valuable resource to remind you that the whack energy is not yours to keep, ever.

Your inner calm, however that looks, is so worth the efforts and the understanding of Love and Allow, takes on a different perspective

Love yourself enough to Allow others their Drama.

I look forward to your questions or comments.

Be well

#trainyourbrain #treatmenttuesday #ednhypnotherapy #empowerment #emotionalwellbeingcoach

Therapy Thursday.

I certainly know, what misunderstandings can feel like, from both sides, for sure. I have explained, for 21 years, what the version of my therapeutic approach can and cannot do. To reassure people, those who are curious anyways, that mind control, Svengali style, completely lose consciousness, or anything associated with a chicken, are not part of the menu in a Hypnotherapy session.

So the text itself, got me thinking along one pathway, but like many things, was only a catalyst to a more global realization.

For many years, for many hours, and for vast number of people's, therapy has been associated with fixing someone. Like my aversion to the word "try" this misunderstanding is just plain and simply wrong! It implies that you are broken, when in actuality, in any form of therapy it's purpose is to repair, and there is a huge difference.

" You are mincing with words Kevin" but firstly words matter tremendously, and secondly I firmly believe that there is not any fly poop being extricated from pepper here at all.( an old man's colloquialism )

In any form of therapy, be in massage, chiropractic, rehab, mental or emotional, the basic task is to work with what and who we have, and utilize our talents to heighten and hone, to a healthier state.

Move beyond the construct that you are broken, and begin to conceptualize you need repair. Each and every single one of us, did what we did, when we did it, with the tools, understanding and knowledge we had in that very moment. Applying a judgement after the fact is just plain rude, and holding one up to scrutiny, post event, malicious.

As I can only speak to MY version of therapeutic approaches, we work with who you are, to mend and adjust, what you endured and experienced, to move towards a desired state of beingness.

No need to fix anything.

As always, your questions and comments are welcomed.

Be well

#therapythursday #yegtherapist #emotionalwellbeingcoach #youarenotbroken

Treatment Tuesday

I will admit it was the "treat" that initially caught my eye, and almost immediately after, the simplicity and purity of the concept, that made me know this was the one.

Perhaps a new variant of the Golden Rule, " Do unto others as you would have done unto you" but in this example self is placed as the primary focus, and that dear reader is what I espouse.

What is stopping, or holding you back, from following this simple mantra to a very enjoyable and fulfilling experience? Your answers won't be wrong, they are not a bad thing, they will be, however, where the work begins in repairing the you that you deserve.

I don't believe, for one moment, that the ideology of who ever wrote this, because we know the Universe cannot hold a pen, or use a keyboard, does lead to a more satisfying and peaceful experience while on this spinning rock.

I encourage you to contemplate and pontificate, how your life could benefit.

I look forward to your questions or comments as always.

Be well

#treatmenttuesday #ednhypnotherapy #emotionalwellbeingcoach #yegtherapist #selflove

Feelings Friday

In my world, perspectives matter. The disposition, mood, and energy, to which I am receiving and transmitting, in my world, heavily influenced by perspective. Admittedly, it was the resemblance to Howard the Duck that drew my eye to this particular poster, but it was the words that activated the muse.

This past week, I have seen the trends, to which I have been attracted to, and realize there is some healing going on within, as the generalized scope has been focused on perception and process.

I aide people who, fundamentally, are in a period of discontent in their lives. The discomfort of that realization, what ever it may be, creates a sufficient propellant to opt for a change and want a new way of being. For some they have a clear and concise idea, and for others it is the " I know I don't want this anymore " statement.

So, everyone I meet is motivated, is practicing self love, and is actively demonstrating an aspect of their warrior's spirit.

To what degree, is the only real variable.

When you wake up in the mornings, no matter what shitstorm you could be facing, take a few seconds to reflect that you indeed woke this morning, which is a great start, because there will come a day when that doesn't happen and all hope for betterment is finished.

It is your body's way of saying I am here, willing to give it another go.

Everything else is a work in progress and potential alternatives.

Be a great host, friend to self, and beacon of inspiration.

Be well

#ednhypnotherapy #feelingsfriday #yegtherapist #emotionalwellbeingcoach #selflove

Therapy Thursday.

I made the choice to feature this message, in my writings this morning, although there were a few which I scrolled through that inspired.

Perhaps what drew me to liking this meme/ poster, was it triggered something from my initial training as a hypnotist and then hypnotherapist, which was the basic and fundamental carrot / stick factors to motivate and compell action. Back then we used the words love or towards motivation and fear/ push against.

Working in mental health therapy, helping the 1000's of people that I have, both clinically as well as in general, I believe my sampling was a sufficient enough population to comment with some confidence, that there is not a third category, and what I learned held some serious chops and accuracy!

The added information of what happens physiologically, just further explains how we manifest the physical symptoms and results .

Yes dear reader, I am very much aware that human expression and emotions are not the black and white, cut and dry extremes, insinuated in the poster, so if you have made it this far in your reading, throttle back on the outrage!

The therapeutic part for today, would be to actively engage in the towards , giving, love mindset, even for a couple hours and take note if you experience something differently.

To put it in the simplest of terms, I adore this example: most people loathe the ideology of Monday's right? Monday's have a bad rap, as it corresponds to the return to work etc. The mindset when our vacation starts on a Monday, is completely different, in anticipation and excitement, but Monday's haven't changed at all.

I wish you a joyful and exhilarating day, and as always look forward to your comments.

Be well

#ednhypnotherapy #therapythursday #yegtherapist #emotionalwellbeingcoach

Treatment Tuesday.

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There is a story I use, from the Orange chair, regarding the two drivers for motivation and movement.

Push away from or pain related and towards a desired outcome or want. The analogy involves a dog, a barn, a bail,a bailer twine salesman and the farmer. It illustrates the discomforts which we have become acquainted with, are familiar, we have adapted to their characteristics, so we exist daily.

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In my case, I am aware that as a 61 yr old male, who is a heart patient, and is overweight, physical activity, cardiovascular stimulation, could help with overall energy and perhaps longevity.

There isn't a rational and conscious though t which deludes me to any other realization.

However the comforts of this sedentary, salads are for rabbits, scotch drinking, cigar indulging, I'll enjoy that fried chicken cutlet with hunters sauce, mofo, are significant enough to keep me contemptuous about the need to get off my boney Saracca and walk or jog a bit more.

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Familiarity does breed and culture contempt.

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Emotionally and intellectually, I believe it is not the case at all. That being involved in the helping of others with their "stuff" it brings a benefit to me. By osmosis I still reap the rewards of the approaches, the tactics and methods to which I administer for others.

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So I completely understand people's hesitation to venturing out from the comfy camp they have created, but then again, if it is beside a landfill, the smell just never goes away, and you will realize there are better places to be.

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That's where therapy helps best in my opinion.

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Let me know if you agree.

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Be well

#treatmenttuesday

#motivational #yegtherapist #emotionalwellbeingcoach

Mindset Monday

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Good, Bad or Ugly, is not just the name of a famous spaghetti western, but also describes the magnificent brain you house in between your earlobes, and the fluid state to which it changes.

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Genetic predisposition is a way of explaining medical conditions and potential future issues, but not to reason away our way of thinking. That falls into the category of conditioning, like Pavlov wrote about, the monkey see monkey do absorbing by osmosis kind of stuff.

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Here is the breakthrough from what I can determine from my therapy chair; genetics are hard wired into the RNA and DNA at the cellular level, conditioning is only wired in our neuro-pathways and as such, possess a certain range of flexibility.

Phrases like this is who I am, or I have always done it this way, strong indicators that a choice was made, and thankfully even that is not fixed in stone.

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What sparked the inspiration, for today's piece, was a quote I read "At your very best, you still won't be good enough for the wrong person, but at your absolute worst, you'll still be worth it to the right person."

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What was triggered inside, for my personal reflection, is that the areas of awareness and focus do change based on the environment and the company I am in, that I pay attention to different language patterns and thoughts as a son, as a partner and spouse, as a parent and as a friend. All of which are still me, and none that actually defines who I am.

That may sound heavy or just lip service, but I believe we are the sum of all our experience thus far, and the grey matter which processes it is both faulty and bias, reducing, simplifying and stream lining for brevity. Highly functional, absolutely, incredibly reliable, not so much.

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You are not your past, you are not your stumbling or failures, what you are is a pool of resources to which you can review and draw on, to establish guidelines to ensure you make intellectual and adaptive strategies for your well-being and future.

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You are all about change, like it or not, and that change gets to be with you input and influence.

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I look forward, as always to your comments or questions.

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Be well

#mindsetmondays #hypnotherapist #youareamazing #empowerment

Tidbit Tuesday

A delightful gem from Louise Hay today on the realization that our current method is not in actuality bringing the results we desire (see Einstein for a cross reference quote).

A conversation which takes place inside the lobes, both ear and frontal, which is depreciating and belittling, serves absolutely no purpose, it doesn't keep someone humble, it certainly doesn't keep the nasty ego in check or anything else EXCEPT to keep you defeated and small.

There is the snide comment we make anout people who drive jacked up trucks, or wear too much, are way over the top in braggarting and must always have the last word, and be right in everything. The compensation is usually a strong indication of a wound which is still open and hurting, needing that validation they matter or are significant for all their world to see.

So what is the trend of being small and insignificant, not worthy protect or heal. Many, contend that it stems from how to survive an abusive environment. Not only does a person project a non threat energy, but by osmosis, or immersion, inherits the absurd abuses for control, by demeaning dialog.

I get caught up in those dog kennel pieces, showing the emotionally beaten, or terrified pooches and the rehabilitation process they experience, when I am doom scrolling??? More powerful than the silly ads of those big literally puppy dog eyes, looking for a donation to be a part of the change IMO.

My tidbit is this: if we can muster humanity, kindness and support in our external world, the redirecting of our nurturing can be turned internally.

The Power behind a survivor, is usually quite and knowing, no need for flash, but no longer accepting to be small, and that dear reader makes all the difference to a new version of purpose.

It is a fascinating and beautiful place to be a part of, someone's healing journey, from the therapy chair.

Be nice !

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