u/Tremblingchihuahua8

Every other post on /dogs or r/dogadvice is a parent saying I have a dog and it’s become too much now that I have three children, especially with the most recent baby. I have a useless husband who doesn’t walk the dog and walking the dog with three children is too hard. I’m looking to rehome the dog. Can anyone recommend a good shelter to drop a 13-year-old pitbull with anxiety?

i’m sure I’m like one post away from getting banned from these communities, but I literally always comment and tell them they should accept the fact that they’re basically euthanizing their dog if they drop them at a shelter right now and that it’d be more humane to euthanize the dog themselves then to have the dog die alone, its last moments spent in terror. I also tell them this is nothing unique. I see posts about irresponsible parents rehoming their dogs all the time and I hope that they don’t do the same to their children when they become inconvenient to them. I know dogs and children aren’t the same yeah yeah yeah. But to me, it shows a real lack of empathy that I hope doesn’t eventually spread to their children. If the children don’t turn out to be the perfect angels they’re expecting.

I am a fundraiser who is fairly new in their position (less than a year) and we are under goal and likely not to reach it by the end of the fiscal year. I wasn’t here for strategic planning for the year and only was given the go-ahead to even start contacting donors in January, but the pressure my supervisor is putting on me and our entire team is becoming unbearable. Every day the office is tense and stressed, and my supervisor finds every reason to say we aren’t doing our job well enough or aren’t doing enough to close gifts.

I’ve been pressured into some behaviors I don’t agree with on a basic level as a fundraiser— pressuring donors to give at a higher level (I’m talking like, making a sudden ask that doesn’t even make sense based on all the previous conversations we’ve had and cultivation I’ve done) or contacting prospects who clearly want to be left alone or aren’t interested in engaging anymore. After being pressured to call someone basically over and over until they responded (after emailing them six times) they told me they were caring for a parent on hospice and could not currently handle talking about giving. I felt like shit about it and while I’m all for persistence in getting the meeting or whatever, the lengths to which I’m expected to chase people down for $2,000 here and there when they’ve given clear signals they don’t want to engage is getting embarrassing and demoralizing. I’m super persistent in getting gifts but even I can respect certain boundaries after a point. I already know I’m not going to reach my meeting goal by the end of the fiscal year (none of us are) and I can’t wait to hear about that too.

In our action items that are tracked along with our contact reports my colleague and I on the same team are BY FAR the most active fundraisers but my supervisor is constantly telling us we could have done more. I closed a large gift at the top of our usual giving range and she immediately said I could have gotten more. I was really taken aback because this was a donor who no one was even thinking about or talking to (and not assigned to me) and I noticed their capacity and previous giving (I’m constantly trolling for new prospects or interesting people to talk to) and contacted them on a lark. I was met with what felt like annoyance for closing this large gift at apparently a level that’s not high enough.

I just needed somewhere to post about this because I hate this anxiety I feel and it’s seeping into my after work life too because I know if I check my email for a donor email I’m likely to come across an irritable email from my supervisor too. I wish I didn’t feel this way and I don’t know how normal this is in a workplace.

edit: I feel like adding (because I am worried I sound whiny in this post) that my other colleague has literally broken out in hives this week and her doctor said it was likely due to stress. It’s really wild

that’s it, just the title. I’m not kidding there’s a contingent of about 40% of my workplace who tries to turn the conversation back to their kids AT EVERY AVAILABLE OPPORTUNITY.

It could be something as mundane as “I wonder if there will be chicken soup today in the cafeteria” and the rest of the conversation will be “Jimmy had chicken soup this weekend because he had a little tickle in his throat. I think it’s because he went to a birthday party where his friend was sick. And in February he had the stomach virus, and in January a cold.“

I’m like… oh wait uhh… ok? I’m not condemning talking about your kids as a whole but it’s literally comical how every convo will turn back to their kids.

I’m not kidding, I have gotten CONFUSED from the whippash. I’ll be discussing a client and then suddenly “Isabella went to ballet next to that office in 2019” and I’m like what? Isabella? who is Isabella? and then I realize they mean their kid and we‘re no longer talking about work.

One of my colleagues on my team keeps inviting me to her daughter’s softball tournaments. She lives 45 minutes from my house. And yet on Friday will ask, are you interested in coming to Ellie’s softball tournament this weekend? I’ve said no like three times but it’s getting awkward. We are not friends outside of work, for context.

There’s a strong “eat lunch together every day” culture that’s a less than subtle pressure so I have to hear these convos every day, otherwise I’d complain less, lol. I do skip lunch but if you skip too many days in a row people comment.