I don’t know where to start.
My husband and I have been married five years this month and together for 13 years. we are in our early 40’s and have one child together and he has two from previous relationships.
I believe he is a serial cheater.
The multiple texts and online messages I stumble across are mere “attention seeking” I was told. He was in the military so we did long distance for a while, as he joined later in life and I had already established career. I just chalked up the last 5 years to that but the other years were off and on because of the infidelity.
The other day I checked his phone and sure enough there is a message from a girl that he hooked up with while he was gone. He doesn’t want to talk about it at the moment and barely apologized. He doesn’t respect me or he wouldn’t do this but I have it in my mind he can change. He hasn’t in the past, why would he now?
I don’t know where to start. My heart aches but I’m saving face for my family until I know what I’m doing. Is therapy out of the question at this point? Do Most start with a separation before divorce? I don’t know how to navigate this now that we are married. I don’t take marriage lightly but I fear there will be no ending this cycle.