Moms please help-11 week old contact sleeper only
My son is 11 weeks old and has only slept 3 hours in our snoo 1 time. he was initially giving us 2-2.5 hour stretches in the snoo and then up about every hour after that but that is not working now. he rejects the snoo almost altogether, sometimes we get 30 minutes, sometimes 50 but that’s rare now. He sleeps good only being held. He does not have signs of reflux, he eats his bottles but does like to snack. He gets plenty of ounces during the day. Naps are primarily contact but we practice going in a crib 2-3 times a day and he can make it anywhere from 10-25 min
I have tried moving up bedtime, establishing a bedtime routine, warming the crib with a heating pad, wearing the crib sheet to smell like me. I watch wake windows and sleepy cues closely.
Out of desperation we are cosleeping safely majority of the night but even then he wakes every hour to 1.5 hours. Sometimes wanting a bottle, but mostly he just wants to be held or will only sleep on my chest. I make sure to pause before intervening to be sure it isn’t active sleep before I pick him up- most of the time he will slowly escalate to crying if I don’t put him back on my chest. sometimes I can get him to sleep and then roll him back to the mattress and let him settle back into sleep-but even then he will be up again soon just to be held/on my chest
overall he is a happy baby, very noise sensitive and has a good startle reflex still. Maybe sleep will improve once that goes away? I don’t see any medical red flags and no spitting up/arching back that would indicate reflux as a culprit
I just purchased the magic sleep suit as a last resort. I go back to work in a few weeks and am concerned about the sustainability of our nights.
is anyone else experiencing this? I am discouraged by my mom friends saying they would have expected him to sleep better by now or that their babies are sleeping 4-6 hours by 10-11 weeks. we have never made it longer than 3 hours in the crib and I have tried everything in my power to help him. I feel that I am failing my baby to identify something he needs?