What is appropriate to ask for now?
In May, I discovered that my boyfriend on multiple occasions talked to his ex in a sexual way and saw her upwards of four times (he claims there was no physical intimacy.) I learned of this through an infidelity Facebook group. We have since been trying to navigate things and make it work. I told him that I don’t feel comfortable because he never leaves his phone unattended. He since began leaving his phone in rooms with me for short periods of time, but I don’t have his password or anything. It makes me so uncomfortable that I don’t have access to his phone at all, and I don’t know if it’s appropriate to ask him if I can see his phone (like asking if he will open it for me and stay there while I look.) I haven’t asked for that, but I see a lot of couples counselors online saying this is important to regain trust. In your experience, should I be asking for it? Is it wrong? If he says no, what then?