AIO getting fed up with my friends money habits
My(29f) friend(29f) Jen(fake name) is just terrible with money.
Backstory: I don’t have many friends, she’s 1 of 4. She’s pretty immature but very sweet and I’ve known her since middle school. She is in my bridal party. I try not to lend her $ but there are occasions with the bridal stuff or group hangouts where it is inevitable. Idc how my friends spend their $ as long as it doesn’t affect me.
I’m at the age where I feel like I’ve saved a good amount of money where I can go out with friends and do stuff without worrying about it. Whenever I want to do stuff with Jen, she is always tight on money, which I can be sympathetic to if it wasn’t for her poor habits. She’s a collector and constantly spends money on clothes, tattoos, figurines, and video games. And she’s the type of person who gets so excited about her purchases she needs to tell everyone, even tho she’s always complaining about money.
She will complain about being low on money yet in the next breath show the 4 things she bought last night on Etsy. She will want to make plans to do something that costs money but has to wait to see what her coming paycheck is before committing. She owes me $400 for our bridal trip coming up that she still hasn’t payed, and has told me multiple times how much anxiety she has about owing me multiple hundreds, yet is constantly talking about her $300 tattoo appointment this week and how she’s saved up for it and is so excited. She will complain about prices to go out yet brag about the figure collectibles she just bought. When we go out in a group for food, I sometimes wind up paying the bill and everyone else takes a pic to send their part. Jen will always forget to send the money and need to be reminded, which makes me feel like she does not prioritize paying me back. When I do remind her she will send it, but usually forgets to add extra for tip or will calculate her bill wrong so it’s short a few bucks.
She’s so sweet and I know she has a good heart and has been a good friend to me, but I just get so aggregated about everything surrounding money with her. I feel like we are too old to be careless with money like that if we don’t have the funds. She does not possess the ability to self control her “fun spending”, and in return she always is low on money and complaining about it or owing people even tho she still spends on bs. AIO?
TLDR my friend is always low on money or owes money but bragging about buying new collectible shit every other day and I feel like I’m too old for this behavior