Being emotionally intelligent is rarer than loyalty these days
I keep noticing something in people around me. Loyalty is everywhere but real emotional intelligence is not. I know people who will stick by you no matter what but they cannot talk through a simple issue without turning it into tension or blame.
I used to think loyalty was the main thing that mattered in friendships and relationships. Now I see it is not enough. Some people stay but they do not listen. They react fast. They take everything personal. They shut down instead of understanding where the other person is coming from.
I have also seen the opposite. People who are not always around but when they show up they actually understand you. They can sit with discomfort and talk things out without making it messy.
It makes me wonder if we overrate loyalty and underrate emotional intelligence in general. Because staying in each others lives means nothing if nobody knows how to handle each other properly when things get hard
Is emotional intelligence actually more rare than loyalty these days?