My fiance (f26) jokes to me (m31) about enm
Disclaimer I had to use chat gpt to help me write this formally please don’t bear me up over it haha. Just very overwhelming topic for me
My partner has joked a few times about sleeping with one of her female friends, and she’s also joked about us finding a “unicorn.”
When she talks about the unicorn idea, though, she describes an actual mutual relationship — all three of us dating, potentially living together, sharing responsibilities and finances, and being someone we both trust around our family.
The thing is, her jokes don’t make me jealous or insecure. Under the right circumstances, I’d potentially be open to her exploring with another woman, and I’m not necessarily opposed to a three-person relationship either.
But I don’t know how much of this is just joking/fantasy versus something she’d genuinely consider, and I don’t want to pressure her by taking the jokes too seriously.
How do I bring this up in a way that’s basically, “Hey, if there’s some truth behind these jokes, I’m open to talking about it,” without making it awkward or sounding like I’m pushing for it?
For anyone who’s gone from joking about ENM/polyamory to actually discussing it seriously, how did you start that conversation?
Forgot almost she jokes about being with her lesbian friend and being with her bisexual female friend more than another guy.