u/Turbulent_North_9932

Wondering what to do about this situation: My mom (85) with documented dementia, was told by her doctor she could no longer drive. My brother immediately called me and said he should get her new car because it got better gas mileage than his and he would be visiting more (her car actually got worse mileage then his). When I told her my dad wanted to keep it in case his car was in the shop, he got very defensive.

A few months go by, mom suddenly announces she wants to give my brother her car and me the cash equivalent. When I raise questions such as Medicaid look-back/ethics and legalities of receiving large gifts from someone with dementia, he responded "Who's going to know." He argues that it's good we're getting rid of the car so she won't be tempted to drive.

My mom suddenly takes a turn for the worse and we decide to put her in memory care. He texts me, "Let's be sure and sell mom's car before she goes into memory care so we can each get the money."

He has a history of financially questionable decisions with other people's money and could eventually be my mom's DPOA should she outlive my dad who is in poor health. I don't think at this point my parents would agree to some kind of protective trust (They think my brother is a saint) or what I can do to protect their money for their future care. Any ideas?

Six years ago, I was close to MMI. I was sent to an IME who dismissed all but one of my conditions so decided to appeal for the other 11 conditions. During the process, someone from the attorney generals office called on the lowdown, suggesting I really should get an attorney - however prior to that I had successfully fought for back pay and retraining on my own. So I hired an attorney. The women I hired was sharp, a fighter, knew my case. Then with no notice to me, she leaves the firm. I'm not told this for two months. The replacing attorney, after two years, still doesn't know my case, have a solid plan, there are numerous clerical issues that have nearly lost me everything. I'm so demoralized I feel like giving up. My case is somewhat complicated with 11 accepted conditions, and my biggest concern is finding someone to do a rating since my PCP is unwilling. At this point, would it be unwise to fire my attorney and fight for PPD on my own?