I'm tired of feeling rejected
Problem/Goal:
I'm looking for advice from people who've experienced a similar situation. My partner no longer initiates intimacy, and it's making me feel unwanted and undesirable. I've stopped initiating because the constant lack of reciprocation has hurt my confidence. How do you deal with this? Is this something that can be worked through?
Context:
I (26F) and my partner (30F) have been together for over two years and are approaching our third anniversary. Like any couple, we've had our ups and downs, but we've always managed to resolve our disagreements.
During the first few months of our relationship, we had a very active sex life. Whenever I visited her (usually once a week), I'd even mentally prepare myself because I knew we'd probably be intimate.
As our relationship progressed, though, our sex life gradually faded. There was even a two-month period when we lived together, and for the first two weeks, nothing physical happened at all.
Now, she rarely—if ever—initiates intimacy. I know sex isn't everything in a relationship, but I think everyone wants to feel desired by their partner. I don't feel that anymore.
I'll still pleasure her because I genuinely want to, but she rarely reciprocates. Over time, I've stopped wanting to initiate because every rejection—or lack of enthusiasm—chips away at my confidence.
At this point, I've decided to stop initiating altogether. I'm tired of feeling undesirable. If she doesn't want that kind of intimacy with me, I don't know what else I can do.
TL;DR: My girlfriend and I have been together for over two years. Our sex life has gone from very active to almost nonexistent. She never initiates and rarely reciprocates, which has left me feeling unwanted. I've stopped initiating because I'm tired of feeling rejected, and I'm looking for advice from people who've been in a similar situation.