u/Twintech3

How do you find out when prospects change jobs?

Genuinely asking because I have no good answer, other than checking LinkedIn but thats not doable consistently.

I found out today that someone I've been chasing for months left their company in March. Just been emailing a dead inbox.

Is there an actual system for this or is everyone just finding out when the email bounces?

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u/Twintech3 — 1 day ago
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I've been putting together a detailed appearance breakdown tool for men and wanted some honest feedback before I take it further. Here's a full example output for one face. Tell me if this is actually useful or if im wasting my time.

Hopefully this is allowed... This is what the report looks like.

It simply looks at your face and advises on hair styles/beard options etc.

Face shape

Broad face, genuinely powerful structure. The forehead and cheekbones are the widest points. The jaw has real mass but rounds off at the chin rather than finishing square, so the bottom of the face softens what the top establishes. The brow bone sits forward over deep-set eyes, which gives the face a naturally intense, composed look even when completely relaxed. That's not a neutral expression; that's just what this face looks like at rest. Skin tone is warm medium-deep with real luminosity underneath that isn't fully coming through yet. Good foundations, wrong frame around them currently.

The one thing this face gets wrong

Leaving the beard as permanent low stubble because it feels like the safe middle ground.

On a lot of faces a few days of growth reads as deliberate. On this one it doesn't. The lower jaw already rounds off toward the chin rather than finishing with a sharp edge, so unmanaged stubble just adds texture to an already soft lower third without giving it any structure. It ends up looking neither like a proper beard nor a clean shave. Just unattended.

The upper face is doing serious work. The brow, the cheekbones, the sheer presence of it. But the lower third needs help and random stubble doesn't provide it. A properly lined beard does. The difference between this face reading powerful all the way down versus commanding on top and soft on the bottom comes down entirely to whether the beard has deliberate edges or not. Right now it doesn't.

What to actually change, in order

1. Sort the beard first. This is the highest impact change available.

What's there now: the cheek line is following natural growth rather than a sculpted edge. No defined neckline below the jaw. Density is patchy and inconsistent throughout; sparse in places, slightly fuller at the chin, no uniformity.

Why it's a problem on this face specifically: the jaw rounds off at the chin rather than finishing with a sharp corner. An undefined beard in that zone adds texture but zero shape, which makes the lower face read as both soft and ungroomed at the same time. On a face where the upper structure is this strong, losing the lower third to an undefined beard is the single biggest waste going.

What to do: book a barber and tell them three specific things. One, hard neckline, two fingers above the Adam's apple, straight across, everything below shaved clean. Two, clean cheek line sitting just above the jawbone, shaved clean above it. Three, take everything down to a uniform 2 to 3mm shadow across the whole beard. That combination is what barbers call a defined stubble with a hard line. It creates jaw structure where the bone alone doesn't deliver it.

Show your barber: search "defined stubble beard neckline shape-up" on Google Images. The ones showing a clean shaved neck with a sharp upper edge and short even stubble above the jaw are exactly what you're after.

At home: Wahl Detailer or any detail trimmer on a 1.5 guard, every 3 to 4 days. Shave the neck clean with a razor on the same schedule. This is a 10 minute maintenance job, not a routine.

2. Get some height on top

What's there now: the hair is cut to the same short length everywhere. Top, sides, all of it. The natural coil texture is cut short enough that it lies flat rather than lifting upward.

Why it's a problem on this face specifically: this is a wide face. When there's no height on top there's nothing pulling the eye upward and the silhouette just reads as wide. Every millimetre of absent height on the crown makes the cheekbone width read wider by comparison. Width without any vertical counterweight makes a broad face look heavier and shorter than it is.

What to do: stop cutting the top. Six to eight weeks minimum; commit to it. When you go back to the barber, ask for a shape-up with a low fade on the sides and back only, and tell them explicitly to leave the top alone. The natural coil texture will lift upward as it grows and create height without adding width. Keep the sides tight. The contrast between tight sides and lifted crown is what does the visual work, not volume for its own sake.

Show your barber: search "short natural hair shape-up fade" on Google Images. Look for examples with tight faded sides and a lifted rounded crown. Not a full afro; just an inch or two of height sitting upright above a clean shape-up.

3. Even the skin out

What's there now: visible unevenness across the forehead and cheeks. Darker marks around the beard area, likely a mix of old shaving irritation and blocked pores. The skin reads slightly patchy rather than smooth, particularly in natural daylight.

Why it matters on this face specifically: the underlying tone is genuinely warm and luminous. You can see it even in a casual outdoor photo. But the uneven surface is dulling that impression. Strong features need clean skin as a backdrop to land at full impact. Right now the surface is getting in the way of the structure underneath.

Three products, introduced in stages. Don't start all three at once.

Week one: CeraVe Foaming Cleanser morning and night. Clears blocked pores and removes buildup without stripping the skin. Available at Boots or Superdrug for around £10. Use this for a full week before adding anything else.

Also week one: Black Girl Sunscreen Men SPF 45 every single morning after washing. The darker marks around the beard area, caused by old shaving irritation, get significantly worse with sun exposure. This specific product is formulated for deeper skin tones and leaves no white cast. Non-negotiable if you're going to bother with anything else on this list.

Week three: The Ordinary Niacinamide 10% + Zinc at night after cleansing. Niacinamide is a form of vitamin B3 that directly targets uneven skin tone and those darker marks. Apply to the full face, not just problem areas. Around £5 at Boots. Give it six weeks before judging it. It's not an overnight fix but it's the right fix for what's visible here.

Nothing else for 60 days. More products don't mean faster results on this kind of unevenness.

Style direction

This face has natural authority. The width, the brow, the depth of the eyes at rest. It reads as composed and commanding without any effort. Clothes need to match that weight without competing with it.

What works: fitted dark crewnecks, structured bombers or overcoats, straight-leg dark trousers or dark indigo jeans. Nothing oversized, nothing with heavy graphics or large logos across the chest. The face is already doing the work; the clothes just need to not contradict it. Think clean, structured, monochromatic. Clothes with a defined shoulder seam and a tapered body build the vertical line that the haircut will eventually create too.

What to avoid: oversized silhouettes, dropped shoulders, baggy fits. This isn't a style preference call; it's geometric. A shapeless fit echoes the rounded lower face rather than contrasting it, and removes the only vertical line available below the neck.

One outfit to build tomorrow: fitted plain black crewneck, no logo or graphic; dark indigo straight-leg jeans, no fading or distressing; clean white or black leather low-top trainers, Air Force 1s or New Balance 550s both work. That's it. No accessories needed. Under £80 assembled from any high street store. The face carries the look.

30 days

Week one

  1. Barber appointment. Beard architecture only. Hard neckline, clean cheek line, uniform 2 to 3mm shadow across the whole beard. Tell them explicitly not to touch the top length. This is the single highest impact change available and it shows up immediately in photos.
  2. Start CeraVe Foaming Cleanser morning and night from day one. Don't add anything else this week.

Week two 3. Add SPF 45 every morning after washing. Black Girl Sunscreen Men or equivalent for deeper skin tones. Every morning without it is undoing whatever the niacinamide will do later. 4. Stop all clippers on the top of the head. Commit to the grow-out. No exceptions.

Week three 5. Add The Ordinary Niacinamide 10% + Zinc at night after cleansing. Every other night for the first week to test how the skin responds, then nightly.

Week four 6. Reassess the beard. After three weeks of maintained shaping, check the density at the chin and jaw. If it's holding clean at 2 to 3mm, continue as is. If it's still reading patchy despite the clean lines, shave completely smooth for two weeks and let the skin recover before restarting. A clean shave on this bone structure, with this brow and cheekbone width, is a stronger look than uneven stubble at any length.

The bone structure here, the brow, the cheekbones, the sheer presence this face carries in a casual outdoor photo, is genuinely not common. The haircut and beard are currently rounding off what is actually a very powerful face. Fix those two things first and what's already there becomes immediately obvious.

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u/Twintech3 — 3 days ago