u/TwoToeTickey

About a year ago I started trying online dating. Since then I’ve probably had around 60 matches. Sometimes conversations go really well, sometimes I even get numbers, but eventually the exact same thing always happens:

I get ghosted completely out of nowhere.

No argument, no awkward conversation, no obvious reason. Things seem fine and then suddenly I’m blocked or ignored.

I was venting about this to one of my coworkers recently. She’s probably the closest/only female friend I’ve ever had, and she started asking me weirdly specific questions like:

“Did you have a messy breakup with someone?” “Did you hurt a girl in high school?”

I had no idea why she was asking until she mentioned an app called "Tea." And apparently I'm on there. Not just once, there are around THIRTY different women claiming horrible things about me. Saying I’m manipulative, predatory, a creep, and one even accused me of molesting a girl in high school at some party which is literally IMPOSSIBLE BECAUSE IVE NEVER BEEN TO A PARTY

I cannot stress this enough that none of this is true. I’ve only ever actually dated ONE person in my life, and that relationship ended like 6 years ago. I’ve never been accused of anything in real life, never even had some dramatic public fallout with anyone. What makes this even crazier is that my name is extremely uncommon. Like youve probably heard of this nam, but never actually met someone with it. It’s not the kind of name you confuse with somebody else.

The only theory I can come up with is my ex somehow being connected to this, because she was extremely popular online in high school and had a huge social media following across nearby counties. But our breakup wasn’t explosive at all. We mostly split because of distance and life circumstances.

What’s messing with me now is realizing this might explain YEARS of confusing experiences with dating.

I genuinely don’t know what to do here. I don’t know how to find out who started this, how to defend myself against anonymous accusations, or whether there’s even a way to get something like this removed.

Any advice is greatly appreciated