It will never change
I'm 5 years into my transition ive been on T for 5 years, I go to the gym, I'm a fucking EMT for God sake, but no matter what I do I will never get people to see me as a man, specifically my wife's family. I KNOW I look like a man my friends and strangers treat me like one. I am the most open person ab answering questions ab transition and trans people bc I'd rather people learn from an educated source then learn from someone who has no idea what they're talking ab. Unfortunately I'm pretty sure that's bit me in the ass. I'm a PROUD trans man, but as soon as someone finds out im trans im no longer one of "the boys" I'm the trans guy which in their eyes is it's "the lady that dresses like a man. I LITERALLY GROW A BEARD BUT I HAVE TO CUT IT FOR WORK.
I'm creating this rant bc my wife and I have been together for 2 years. Her uncle (the only father in her life bc her dad has been gone/ dead since she was 2) has decided my openess to answer questions is an opening to criticize everything I do affectionately towards my wife. My wife and I were telling a story about how her feet hurt after standing for a concert and she was explaining how I wore her shoes so she could take a break and wear my boots and he was like, "yk that doesn't help your case im sure everyone could tell." Like wtf are you even talking ab this is basically your daughter and you don't want a man treating her right. He asks, "Do you hold her purse too?" Like yes tf I do???? Im stronger and if her shoulders/arms get tired then why tf wouldn't I, I love this woman. He tries to play it off as, "We need to hang out more so I can rub off my manliness on you." With a smug fucking smile. Like no thank you good sir you've cheated on your wife 3 fucking times you disgust me and surprise me with how youre still married in equal amounts.
He's got 2 other daughters and one of them has had a fiance for 5 years I understand him treating that guy closer bc he's been there so long, but the other daughter JUST started dating this guy 3 months ago and he actually gives this guy time of day whereas the only thing he wants to talk to me ab is work and my transition otherwise he's criticizing me. IVE BEEN HERE FOR 2 FUCKING YEARS ARE YOU FUCKING KIDDING ME. No shade on the new guy he's super cool, but still dude I fucking wish. Why can't I have been born right, why can't I also be treated like a man dude.
As for work if you don't work in the field you won't understand the work schedule exactly (a general consensus, I don't mean to offend). I work 12-48hrs with the people, most of the time it's with my partner n I love her (shout out to my work partner). Everyone at work knows ab me bc I'm ab to finish the process for bottom so I'm in and out of work, this is the type of job where once somebody other than your partner knows everyone knows and it used to bug me but it doesn't really bug me anymore. I've also recently found out that most people don't interact with me/avoid me completely bc they don't know how to talk to me. I'm golden retriever type so I talk to anyone whoever whenever I can. Like can yall just stop being fucking weird and just fucking talk to me like a human. If yall didn't fucking know you wouldn't treat me any fucking differently fuck sake dude. Everyone i talk to whether they have questions ab my transition or not I'm super open and out going in general, just stop fucking treating me differently dude I can't fucking stand it.
Anyways there's photos of what I look like incase you guys were wondering :) thank you for reading all the way through my rant if you did sometimes writing it out helps :).