Is arrange marriage for losers?
Hello, I am a man in mid 20s and most of my cousins and extended relatives of similar or younger age are already married. Every one of them did a love marriage albeit within the same caste. My father was very pushy about me marrying early and having a family of my own. But my mother was willing to let us complete study and be mature before we marry. I knew they will pressure me to marry. They keep asking if i have a gf or i like someone. If not they will step up arrange marriage for me.
I didnt want to do arrange marriage and i knew pressure will be there from my parents so these past years i tried damn hard to get in a relationship with someone. I approached girls. Talked to them. I flirted. Became more aggressive, talkative, etc. i am an introvert but i tried and didn’t succeed at all. So, i have no option but to do arranged marriage. But now, i am feeling like a loser. I am unable to get girl for myself.
In my conversation with girls in the past, most of them told me they hate having proposal for AM because they know the guy is a loser because he is taking parents help to get girls. And such losers deserve to be alone. And they have some serious flaw because they couldn’t even get a single girl to be with them. I am increasingly feeling anxious thinking about it.
I have no gf to marry. My parents are forcing me to. So most likely AM. I think i will be judged by my future wife and looked down upon by her. What if she thinks i am a loser and do not respect me? What if she thinks i have some serious personality flaw?
I would like the thoughts and opinions of cheli in this matter? Am i a loser for doing AM? Am I a loser for not getting gf to marry? How do i deal with my future wife if she thinks im some weirdo without any game? How do i assure i am perfectly ok personality and social skills wise and its just women seems to have no romantic interest in me? Yes, i am not a tall handsome hunk. But I think i am pretty average. So, please help me get clarity! Thank you!