AITA for wanting my sisters boyfriend?
Hey Potatoes im using a throw away account since i got a few friends that know my original account. im not to worried about them seeing this as most of them really dont keep up with reddit but just to be safe i made a fake one. so ill be using fake names of course and really need your opinions. theres my friend who i call my sister lets call her Angela (32) and her boyfriend Ryan (29), and of course myself (27). so lets get into it. So Angela and i have been friends for almost a decade and shes always been a spit fire. she got married a while back and only the past few years has she been divorced. she ended up dating Ryan in the middle of her divorce. as far as im aware he had nothing to do with it but just ended up growing closer to her when she was going through all the hell. So like Ryan joined our friend group like 4 years ago. And i was in a not so great relationship at the time. Well, he ended up befriending myself and Angela. we found out he was pretty cool and he seemed really relaxed with us. he never seemed to show any signs of interest in any of us as well. so, after a year of chilling with us and hanging out I kind of grew fond of him. in my eyes he was everything I liked in a guy. he was tall, with great strawberry hair and blue eyes, he's incredibly fit and just is a straight up great guy. well Angela ended up leaving her husband and like of course we all rallied behind her because she needed us. Angela also had a daughter to, so I wanted to be there for her as well. so, like we are supporting her and what not and Ryan ended up really bending over backwards to help her and be there for the little girl. which made admire him more. he had such a fatherly instinct, and I love that in a partner. so, a few months later of all the drama I felt Ryan and I got closer. we were constantly helping Angela and Ryan, and I would talk and text for hours about the situation and even got lunch a few times together since it was usually on the way to help Angela. I was already distancing myself from my partner who was really cruddy to me. my partner belittled me, didnt want time with me unless we were having sex, and if i wouldnt he accused me of cheating all the time. i just felt like garbage all the time. But when i was around Ryan he always told me how kind i am, how much of a hard worker i am, and just always lifted me up. I felt we had a strong connection and i was certain he felt it too. so imagine my shock when i find out Ryan and Angela are together!!! Apparently what i got was those two had hooked up and she got pregnant. well Ryan chose to stay and i was certain it was because of the baby. so like after a while the kid is born and Ryan looked happy to have a son. which what man doesnt get excited over a boy? so those two actually got together and tbh i feel cheated. Cause Ryan and i built a great friendship. we have so much in common. we both love the same anime shows, we both love spicy food, we both can talk about building unique structures, we are absolute fitness freaks, we even love to make bad dad jokes. so yea we just mesh well. like i feel more like me with him than i ever have with another person. But like all he does is talk and think about his "Family" with Angela. I love her don't get me wrong but i don't see how they work at all. She doesn't get any of the anime jokes cause well she doesn't really get to watch the stuff. She hates spicy foods. she doesn't even know basic construction. she doesn't care about working out either. let alone like dad jokes. all in all they couldn't be more different. but every time im around them it bothers me. He will get her drinks, food, rub her shoulders, handle the kids, he cooks, cleans, and even takes time to hold her when she has one of her "depression stints". don't get me wrong, she's warm and caring and can be sweet. she's a good mom and fairly good cook and is an absolute neat freak. so its not like she's not appealing in her own way. But like she's kind of let herself go after her son. she's put on quite a bit of weight and acts way more like a couch potato than she use to be. Not to mention shes clearly gotten way to comfortable with not even trying to dress up more. shes constantly in those stretchy pants and baggy shirts now, its like shes given up. meanwhile Ryan is always trying to look nice and stay fit. TBH i can see him leaving her cause hes a fitness freak and shes not. i get he doesnt ever complain about her weight and only ever says nice things but thats just because hes such a great guy. i know it sounds bad but like if you see what i see youd understand they are not a good match whatsoever. I mean he says hes happy but i know its because of the kids. if it wasnt for them he would definitely leave. i mean if he was really that loyal to her, then why do we text almost every day? granted its not sexual or anything but like we have our inside jokes and he always is kind to me and like is just helpful all around. I want to tell him my feelings and explain to him he doesn't need to settle for mediocrity. I honestly think we are a far better match for one another than those two are. so, like what are your guy's opinions? if your just going to leave negative responses please just move on. i want actual helpful responses.