I know I am a complete asshole for this but I genuinely dread hanging out with people now. I hope the weather is bad so I don’t have to make up some excuse. Any advice? I just want to drink alone after work and on the weekends. I think that would come across badly though .
Where I currently am we have an extreme heat warning until 8pm. Genuinely concerned I’ll get heat stroke because of the alcohol I drink. It’s in open field with no shade. She knows I like to drink a lot and have had multiple embarrassing instances in front of her. She struggles with her own stuff (not alcohol or drugs) and has had instances in front of me which is the only reasons we’re still friends. There’s no way normal people would put up with either of our shit.
Edit-Thanks for the advice I messaged her and asked if we could go later. She originally wanted to go at 5 the fireworks are normally around 9:15/9:30ish.
Edit-We just ended up talking on the phone for awhile
Basically title I really can’t keep up with one of my friend’s activities anymore and she thinks I’m pissed at her. So basically when we go to NYC together she wants me to walk 12 miles (she refuses to take any pubic transportation and last time she refused to take private too) and then wait in a hotel when she sees a Broadway show (that I made an absolute ass of myself at and had to go the hospital). I did this in April and felt like absolute hell.
I became part of a friend group through a shared hobby (not drinking obviously lol) three ish years ago and get along with everyone really well and have fun hanging out with them. The problem is that we used to hang out once or at most twice a month but it has turned into recently once a week (excluding the trips we’ve been on together but those are exceptions) and it’s driving my drinking schedule haywire. They like to meet around 10 am on weekends and it takes me around an hour to get there so I have to get up around 6:30/7 and I don’t know how I’m going to feel. This is all my fault and completely my problem but I wanted to post it on here. Also currently drinking tequila.