Periods of no contact
I’m (17M) and my situationship parter which I’ll call Abby (16F) for privacy reasons have a not unique but strange relationship. We met through friends of friends and I would like to say we hit it of pretty well. She enjoys niche topics that are rare as a society as a whole E.g reading. We’ve been talking pretty often but due to her getting into exam season think took a stress turn which is very understandable and by all means and not angry about it. The apparent routine was that she would wake up earlier than me send a snap as a whole to all her friends as a Snapstreak and eventually I would wake up and send one back and we would go back and forth with the snaps but I felt as if there was a weird tension to see who would message first, which is I suppose a very common issue with the whole “I’m not messaging first “ type of game. With me being me I always ended up messaging first as I dislike the awkward tension I felt, it would be random stuff as “how’s class” or something that I saw in the snaps in a friendly manner. This was until I diddnt message first for once on a Tuesday. That day the snaps ended prematurely with her leaving my snap on opened which struck me a little hurt but I thought she was going to follow up with a message etc. we went the whole day without messaging which is to an extent fine, I don’t expect to message all day it can get exhausting I suppose however, come next morning same routine; snap, I wake up, snap back and so on. But again I was left on opened and we went the whole day with no constant. During this I was hurt and confused as to why I had to message first. Come next morning I wake up emotional for some reason and message Abby “I miss you why are doing this” and from there we were back in contact for a week, we talked about it and I said it wasn’t fair how I always messaged first and she responded with “I just don’t like messaging first” which I found odd but tried to understand. We keep talking and she promised to message first more. Give or take a weeks time it happens again. Same routine; snap, wake up, send one back and so on. Now I can say she did start to message first so I was happy that our conversation meant something however the conversations she sparked up died fairly quick and ended in her or me reacting with a heart to each other messaging hence killing the conversation but Atleast she was messaging first making it 50/50 between us. Anyways for the most part the routine was the same however she left my message on opened which was odd to me as she had never done that. The topic was her induction day at the college I attend and she stated that none of her friends had the same induction day as her. Clearly I understand that there was undertones of her wanting to go with me as our conversation grew however I diddnt want to announce that I would go with her as to me it seems I would be the best suited person as someone who knows their way around the college and knows teachers and where she needs to be and I thought her asking me would be a given. I kept the conversation alive saying “ask your friends they would go with you if you asked “ she responded with “I don’t want to bother them with asking and make them come with me “ it was at this point I knew she was I suppose hinting at me that she wanted to go with me. I stood my ground and diddnt say that I would go with her and I wanted her to ask that as it’s not my place to say that I’ll go with her because if she doesn’t ask how can I know for sure. Anyways the topic ended with me being on opened and we diddnt talk for the remainder of the day. Next day comes and it’s the same routine; snap, wake up , send one back but there’s no first message from anyone as I’m still hurt from the day prior and would make sense for her to message first. There was no first message from anyone the whole day and I knew it was a repeat on the week before. On this day she left my snap on opened shortly after the routine started leaving me confused and hurt. Regardless I go through my day worried and anxious but I get through it. Next day comes but there’s no snap from her in the morning which through the whole routine upside down and I understood that finally something is happening between us we diddnt talk that whole day which was yesterday as I am writing this on Friday 22nd may which was an unwritten thing between us that I would go to her house on a Friday which has been our small tradition for around a month. I’ve come to terms that maybe we just diddnt click as well as I thought we did and that we’re just stubborn as eachother but I’m still upset as she for the most part had a great personality and gorgeous eyes.
I am very sorry if anyone reads this as it just one block of text and most likely an eye sore but I really want help. Please, thank you