Anybody finding themselves and their kids being ostracized from local mom friend groups?
Looking for advice. My son (2 years old) cries daily about this and it’s really sad.
I find this happens on two levels:
- When my son is trying to play with their kids they will move their kids along from us. Not all moms but most. It will always be done kindly, like, let that boy play on this jungle gym, we’ll go to the other.
And, even more sadder,
- I’ve seen so many mom groups get together for playdates or just doing the same activity at the same time, but when I ask if we can join I get, of course, but then I’m never told about it, or ignored from the get go.
My aunt told me it’s because they’re afraid it’ll look like they are trying to cheat on their husbands or something…which I feel is ludicrous.
I don’t care about being ostracized but my kid doesn’t understand it. He is very much internalizing the fact that he isn’t worthy to play with and I’m really worried about it.
I never see stay at home Dads, either, and I know no one in my area (we moved here to have kids) so we are very isolated. No grandparents even. We’re so screwed.