r/StayAtHomeDaddit

my wife works from home and shes been dropping hints she wants a photo book of the kids for her birthday. i got a ton of pics on my phone but idk where to start. i looked up photo books online and theres like a million options. some look cheap and the colors get messed up. i want something where the paper feels thick and the pictures actually look like real photos not a bad print and also dont want to spend hours designing it on some glitchy website.

anyone made one lately? trying to get this done before her birthday without messing it up lol

Hey everyone!

Does anyone have any tips on helping baby go down for daytime naps with his dad? My husband is home with baby during the day while I am at work, then I have baby in evenings/overnight but we are both there to put him down at nighttime. He has done great with overnight sleeping since he was born and is now 10 weeks old! His daytime naps of course are changing now as he gets older and he has now been staying with my husband during the day for 2 weeks. He is starting to struggle a bit to go down for naps with his dad, and I'm wondering if anyone has any tips on this. We have started letting my husband be the one to lay him down at night to get him used to transferring him to bassinet.

Our baby has naturally been laid down "drowsy but awake" since he was born, which I know we have been so fortunate with!! He has always been very easy going with naps and sleeping but is starting to change a bit of course as we go through growth spurts and changes!

I have a daughter that is about to turn two and have been stay at home since she was born. But, Im starting to think I'm not good at this, or cut out for it fellas. Its not the obvious stuff we all talk about either. Im good at handling everything with her and I keep the house going great, have a supportive wife, etc. My issue is me. I don't think I feel how im supposed to feel. Of course there are great moments that I feel blessed to have, and will never forget, but for the most part, im literally just trying to get through the day when she goes to bed, or when her mom takes her on weekends so I have time to myself. I look forward to that, and it feels like shit. I have immense guilt over it honestly.

I can only play at her level for 15 minutes at a time max and mentally, im done. I dont find enjoyment in it, and that feels fucked up. I can only do so many books, and I get annoyed. I don't show it obviously, but it seems very wrong to feel this way. I wonder if its because shes so young and communication is limited, and things we can do is limited, and will eventually get better as she gets older, but these are the most important and precious years and i dont feel like im present enough, and im really screwing this up. Being as lucky as i am to have this time with her, I feel like it should be impacting me on a deeper level, but its not.....It unfortunately feels like a chore alot of the time. Im a very big introvert, so I think that plays a part. My battery runs out quick with everyone, but it just really sucks its also that way with her. I just feel like an asshole.

Is this relatable? Or am I definitely an asshole?

with memorial day sales going on i started looking at washers again. the kids go through so many clothes and towels its insane. right now im doing at least 2 loads a day just to keep up. thinking about one of those all-in-one machines so i can just set it and forget it but i hear mixed things. anyone here use one for a busy house hold? does it really save time?

Need advice one-on-one if a dad is open to talking about career, relationships, etc. I don’t have a father or father figure to go to.

I’ve been reflecting the last few months on our routines and schedules and been seeing a pattern that I’m starting to question.

Over the span of a random month she has multiple appointments, mostly during the weekend but some during the weekday, for things like facial/peel, wax, eyebrows, nails/feet, or gym etc. etc. etc. The things she goes and does is not the issue, neither is the money but rather the time away.

Meanwhile I have zero hobbies, time to myself and chores and to-do lists keep growing. I realize I’ve let this grow and build-up so I’m wondering if anyone has been in my shoes and successfully navigated this path.

Either way wish me luck lol

Hi! Full time working mom of an 8 month old here. My husband is a stay at home dad and I've been frustrated at the state of our house ever since he started watching the kiddo. When I first had our kiddo, it was an unexpected c section, so I could t really do much. My husband stayed home for the first 4 weeks with me, then went back to work as I had maternity leave for a little over 3 months. I am forever grateful for that time. He switched to 2nd shift for that time period as the pay was better, so didn't get home til late, sometimes midnight. I would watch the baby, clean the house. Make sure I had dinner ready for him, and most days, be awake when he got home so we could talk abit about his day and spend tome together. Those night were brutal. I would get up so that he could sleep, sometimes up for hours with a fussy baby, but I was grateful for him working so hard, so did my best to let him sleep.

When I had to go to work, it was hard. My boss was very generous with me, and allowed me to work from home 3 days a week as I am still breastfeeding, this was and is a lifesaver. I have a fairly stressful job, and recently developed a stress related autoimmune response due to everything going on, so have also been dealing with that.

He doesn't do anything but watch the baby during the day. I get it, as I also watched him for a few months by myself, he can be a handful and some days it is hard to get anything done. But when I was recovering from a c section, I still found time to make him food, grocery shop, clean the house, and take care of the baby.. the one thing he has to do is let the dogs out, and half the time, I'm doing that too. I work at 8 am, so get up at 7 when working from home, 6 when I have to go to work. I'm taking care of the baby all night as we co sleep, he is up 3 to 4 times a night. My husband used to help with the baby at night. But recently, he has just wanted me. My husband doesn't get up until 9:30 or 10 most days. So he is getting way more sleep than me.

I am doing dishes, grocery shopping, meal planning, paying all the bills, working full time, and breastfeeding/pumping and trying to keep my supply up. I made up food for my little guy, put. It in the freezer and made a list so that my husband knows what to feed him, I asked him to feed him 2x a day, so once when I am working ( we usually both feed him food at night) and he hasn't started. Every time I bring it up he just says he forgot.. he is in charge of laundry, as I got sick of being the only one doing chores, so i assigned it to him. He didn't do laundry for a week and a half, I was out of pants and underwear, so I ended up doing the laundry the night before mothers day and having to stay up til after midnight. The 3 clean loads of laundry are still sitting on the couch unfolded.

We have talked about all of this. He keeps saying he will do better. I have not seen a change, and I'm so tired.. I have tried to make it easier for him, but I'm just resentful at this point. Because I tried so hard when I was home to keep the baby happy, house clean and take care of him, why can't I be treated with the same care in return?? I'm not even expecting the same thing i did as he does take care of the cars and mows the lawn so does have other responsibilities ( though they are not every day ones). But like 2x a week for him to do laundry at least would be great. Idk what to do anymore....

He is a great dad to our son. He loves him, and our son adores him. The baby laughs are real when they're playing. So sometimes I wonder if I'm just being a bitch with all of this too... idk. I love him, and he is a good man, I dint make this post to bash him, so please don't in the comments. Just looking for advice on how to fix this as I'm at my wits end.

Other stay at home dads, what are your expectations during the day for yourself? How did you and your wife come up with a plan that worked for you? Genuinely wondering how to navigate this as I am out of ideas. Thank you for the feedback!!!

6.5 months the mom went back to work 3 months ago. I’ve been at the same job since 2018 and wfh since covid. It’s super low demanding (wasn’t always this way I kinda just got lucky) I just gotta be available pretty much and do my task whenever. Make like 80-85k so decent money she contributes financially everywhere aside from mortgage (recent first time homeowner). When she gets home takes main caregiving role I usually get a workout in and by the time we eat it’s time for sleep lol. I want to get to the next step as far as my career / my own business but since mom has gone back to work I’ve hit a wall and we are both burnt out tbh.

I should and can get over the 100k hump but it’ll require a job switch. Side hustle bringing in 800 extra a month with a single client who could leave at any point but has been consistent for a couple years. I can ride this job til the wheels fall off but I know there is more out there for me and they could let me go any day as they have mostly all of my former colleagues and outsourced to another country.

Right now basically putting all my time and energy into my son which is great but feeling unproductive in all the other areas. would love to hear from people in similar siuations.

Hello, people of Cooking Subreddit. My wife, after being the SAHM for the first year and some months, has switched me job responsibilities as she's gonna be the main breadwinner and I get the pleasure of being the main parent. I wanna be a good husband and dad and start cooking for my family that doesn't just involve throwing stuff in the air fryer or microwave, but I lack so much experience. The only food I've prepared that wasn't just heating up food is scrambled and fried eggs, and Velveta Mac and Cheese. I've also cooked ground beef once or twice. My wife has been too sweet preparing us dinner for essentially the entire relationship while I did whatever the hell, so I haven't picked up very much. I'm not entirely sure where to start, and I have this anxiety of making food and wasting it cause it's bad with no money to replace it, and with this *lovely* economy we're all living in, I gotta look for cheap options. Please help a brother out so he can stop feeding his family with the same food every single day 🙏

Sorry for the crappy post title. I'm not complaining; just commenting to see if anyone else has a similar story and how you handle it.

I've been a SAHD for 7 years now. For the past few years my wife has been a bit upset on Mother's Day because she doesn't feel like a "real mother". I do the laundry, the cooking, and most of the cleaning. We both are active parents in raising our daughter. My wife is just the one working. She's worked overnights and weekends from home for over a decade. We've both gotten to take advantage of her unique schedule to maximize family time with our daughter. It just made sense to try her keeping her job and me staying at home, and that's worked for over 7 years.

She gets upset seeing all the social media posts from other mothers talking about kids being thankful for all the traditional housework stuff that mom does, and feels like less of a mother because of that. I reassure her she is a great mother, and I remind her to not compare our situation to anyone else's. I tell her that today is about being a mother and that she is a great mother.

Last night, she even said that she thought we should be celebrating me today and not her. I told her that was a ridiculous idea. She birthed our daughter, and it's Mother's Day, not homemaker's day, and she's a great mother.

So, yeah, I'm not complaining at all. Just checking in if anyone else has a similar situation or discussion on Mother's Day in their house.

I got laid off for about three months because of the ice raids last year, we have a 6 year old and a 1 year old, my wife went to work and I took care of everything. The first week I was off the whole house got deep cleaned and stayed that way for the whole three months and I would take the 6 year old to school and picked him up, got homework done with him and my wife always had a hot meal when she got back and I still fixed everything that needed fixing. I worked at most 2 hours a day and just played with the kids and video games most of the day because everything was pretty much done. Being a stay at home parent was a vacation I had everything down to a T and when there was unexpected situations that needed to be taken care of it really didn’t affect anything because I already had everything down to a system. But I can’t seem to understand why my wife has such trouble with it

Any fly fishers going to the convention? Going to be my first time ever going to this and going solo and looking forward to it whether I have time to fish or not!

Full disclosure I have no idea what I'm doing when it comes to teaching reading. My wife is a nurse who works 12 hour shifts and I'm home with our two kids (5 and 2). She keeps saying I should be working on phonics with our 5 year old and I keep nodding and then doing absolutely nothing about it because I genuinely don't know where to start. I tried pulling up some youtube videos about teaching letter sounds and I couldn't even get through the video because the 2 year old was eating crayons and the 5 year old was asking me when we could go to the park. I ordered a workbook from amazon, we did two pages, he hated it, I hated it, the workbook now lives under the couch. I need something where I literally just open it and go. No prep, no cutting out flashcards, no watching tutorial videos first. Just "say this, point here, done." Because right now the alternative is me fumbling through random letter activities with zero plan and my kid learning nothing.

Hey friends!

I'm a stay-at-home dad, and I stay sane by writing funny (I hope) anecdotal essays. This is my most recent one about what it's like to be seen fathering alone in public.

I don't get any ad revenue or anything like that. I just hope some people read this, find it entertaining, and maybe vibe with my experiences.

Cheers!