u/coop999

Sorry for the crappy post title. I'm not complaining; just commenting to see if anyone else has a similar story and how you handle it.

I've been a SAHD for 7 years now. For the past few years my wife has been a bit upset on Mother's Day because she doesn't feel like a "real mother". I do the laundry, the cooking, and most of the cleaning. We both are active parents in raising our daughter. My wife is just the one working. She's worked overnights and weekends from home for over a decade. We've both gotten to take advantage of her unique schedule to maximize family time with our daughter. It just made sense to try her keeping her job and me staying at home, and that's worked for over 7 years.

She gets upset seeing all the social media posts from other mothers talking about kids being thankful for all the traditional housework stuff that mom does, and feels like less of a mother because of that. I reassure her she is a great mother, and I remind her to not compare our situation to anyone else's. I tell her that today is about being a mother and that she is a great mother.

Last night, she even said that she thought we should be celebrating me today and not her. I told her that was a ridiculous idea. She birthed our daughter, and it's Mother's Day, not homemaker's day, and she's a great mother.

So, yeah, I'm not complaining at all. Just checking in if anyone else has a similar situation or discussion on Mother's Day in their house.