u/Unique-Bullfrog-5804

​I saw him in church today. He talked to other girls, but not to me. We made eye contact, but because I was nervous, I wasn’t able to smile. I thought he would at least talk to me because I had messaged him two weeks ago. The last time I saw him, three weeks ago, I started a conversation, but he didn't even seem interested in continuing it. Today I saw him for the last time; I won't see him again. I was afraid to talk, but he never cared about me either. All I could do was cry after reaching home.

​Three years... all those years I waited for you in church just to see your face, just to talk to you, just to see you smile... and now it comes to an end. I don't know if I can really move on.

​Bye, Jeffy. I always loved you.

I have had a crush on someone for three years. We have known each other since childhood; he is 26M and I am 19F. Because of his job, he lives in another city, and recently, his parents decided to move out of our city as well. Since they were leaving, we invited him and his parents to our home for a farewell dinner. (It happened 3 weeks ago)

That morning, he ignored me at church. We made eye contact twice—once outside the church and again when it got crowded. Later, when I went to say goodbye to his mom because we are close, I got emotional. He was standing right next to her, but as soon as I started talking, he just walked away. Why is he acting like this?

When they came over for dinner that night, I found myself unable to maintain eye contact with him, and he just ignored me after that. He kept checking his phone constantly, looking anxious, and spent time walking around sending voice messages while completely ignoring me. At one point, I went into the living room where he was pacing back and forth. We made eye contact several times, but he just wouldn’t talk to me.

Finally, his mother suggested we take a group selfie. I volunteered to take it, but he was standing all the way at the other end of the room. Because of my height, I was struggling to fit everyone into the frame. Seeing this, he walked over, took the phone from my hand, and stood right beside me. My mind was going crazy. He smiled and stood really close to me.

After that, I tried to start a conversation by asking him about his job, but he seemed in a big hurry to go home. I thought I could at least shake his hand before they left. My mother shook his hand, and I stood in line to do the same, but he completely bypassed me. When they were waving goodbye, he didn't even look at my face. I was literally heartbroken. He was never like this before; he used to wave and smile at me. I know he is a shy person and finding things to talk about can be awkward for him, but this was different.

I messaged him two days later, but his replies were so dry. He only answered my direct questions and did nothing to keep the conversation going. I was incredibly disappointed. I thought I would never see him again and was truly trying to move on.

However, he is coming back tomorrow for a program at the church. I don't know what to do, and I am feeling so anxious. All these years, I kept asking myself, "What if?" even though, deep down, I think I already knew the answer. But as for tomorrow, I feel like I already know what will happen. He will just ignore me again...