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My parents are separating and my dad is moving out today. Honestly, i’m just looking for perspective and advice from other adult children going through something similar.

I'm 22, finishing up my junior year of college, and my parents have decided to separate. My entire child I have seen my parents fight, but nonetheless this is a shock. My moms parents are divorced and she wanted to badly to break the cycle. She has some not great mental health issues, and that definitely put a strain on the relationship. My dad however has refused couples therapy for 10 years, and is very cold, non affectionate, and basically lives his own life in the house. They haven’t slept in the same bed in years, all the signs were there.

I am still utterly crushed that this is happening. My mom is trying so hard to be strong, but I can see how hurt she is. She was rejected, her husband h gave up, and I can only imagine. I think the hardest part, is that my dad is an AMAZING dad, but a horrible husband.

Ultimately I am just scared. I’m scared for him to move out of my family home tomorrow, and what it’s going to feel like. I’m scared to go back to school in Georgia and leave my mom, im scared of holidays and more fights and the eventual divorce. i’m scared of them dating, and navigating that. Logically, I understand this is what they both need, and I'm not angry at either of them.

Emotionally it feels like a bigger deal than I expected. I keep thinking about what changes, holidays, coming home, just the normal family structure I've always had. I'm also very aware of not becoming the person either of them leans on emotionally, or the mediator between them. I've spent years watching them make bad decisions towards eachother, and tried so hard to keep them happy, but it was obvious exhausting. i’m trying to focus on the relief i have now, that i don’t need to listen to see of my dad said goodnight to her, or if my moms mood is good. but i still feel lost.

I'm wondering if anyone else has navigated this as an older teen or young adult. What helped? How long did it take to adjust? And how do you maintain separate relationships with both parents without losing sight of your own mental health? I think that’s my bigger fear, how my relationship is going to change with them.

Thank you for any thoughts or sharing your own stories :)

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