u/Unique_Rest4695

Warning: your feelings may be hurt, but if your ex comes back or somebody you used to talk to romantically reaches out again, it doesn’t always mean something positive.
There are plenty of potential romantic partners I don’t talk to anymore, or I chose to stop talking to, because I don’t find us compatible romantically. But in my mind, they still seem like good people to talk to every once in a while.
We might have talked every day at one point, but eventually I told them that I didn’t want to talk to them in a romantic way anymore. I became less interested and stopped talking to them as much.
But every once in a while, I might check on them and see how they’re doing. They may want to talk to me, or they may not. Either way, I don’t really care because I already placed the relationship in a different category in my mind.
The relationship has no romantic value to me anymore, and honestly, it probably doesn’t have much value in my life in general. Sometimes I’m just bored, or I simply feel like connecting with somebody.
That doesn’t mean they aren’t valuable as a person. It just means their relationship with me isn’t important in my life anymore, because if it was, I would naturally want to stay in consistent contact. There’s no hatred or negative feelings — I just realized it’s not a good fit.
Hope that helps somebody.

Being a secular artist honestly has to be hell on earth sometimes.
I remember when “Grippy” by J. Cole came out, my friend sent it to me. I first heard it back in 2024, and I didn’t read any comments or reactions at the time. I just listened to the song for what it was. (I havent heard Cole in a minute)
I’m not even the biggest Cole fan, but I honestly didn’t think the song was bad. To me, it sounded like he adapted to the times and was just making a fun, catchy song like a lot of artists do. The song is about sex, it’s catchy, and he found a flow for it. I really didn’t see the big problem.
Fast forward to today, I listened to it again, then I finally started reading the comments, and I was kind of in disbelief seeing how many people were trashing Cole for it.
It made me think: are artists not allowed to have fun anymore?
Because honestly, if Young Thug made that exact same song, I don’t think people would have reacted the same way. If Drake made it, I definitely don’t think people would have reacted like that. People would probably just say it’s a fun record.
It feels like fans put artists in a box. They complain when somebody keeps making the same type of music and say, “Switch it up, do something different.” Then when the artist actually switches it up, those same people are like, “What are you doing? Go back to the old you.”
At some point it’s like… what do people actually want?
I get everybody has their own taste, and you don’t have to like the song. But sometimes it feels less about the music and more about people already deciding what an artist is “allowed” to make.

I feel alot of opinions are emotionally driven and group thinking.

Being a secular artist honestly has to be hell on earth sometimes.
I remember when “Grippy” by J. Cole came out, my friend sent it to me. I first heard it back in 2024, and I didn’t read any comments or reactions at the time. I just listened to the song for what it was. (I havent heard Cole in a minute)
I’m not even the biggest Cole fan, but I honestly didn’t think the song was bad. To me, it sounded like he adapted to the times and was just making a fun, catchy song like a lot of artists do. The song is about sex, it’s catchy, and he found a flow for it. I really didn’t see the big problem.
Fast forward to today, I listened to it again, then I finally started reading the comments, and I was kind of in disbelief seeing how many people were trashing Cole for it.
It made me think: are artists not allowed to have fun anymore?
Because honestly, if Young Thug made that exact same song, I don’t think people would have reacted the same way. If Drake made it, I definitely don’t think people would have reacted like that. People would probably just say it’s a fun record.
It feels like fans put artists in a box. They complain when somebody keeps making the same type of music and say, “Switch it up, do something different.” Then when the artist actually switches it up, those same people are like, “What are you doing? Go back to the old you.”
At some point it’s like… what do people actually want?
I get everybody has their own taste, and you don’t have to like the song. But sometimes it feels less about the music and more about people already deciding what an artist is “allowed” to make.

I feel alot of opinions are emotionally driven and group thinking.

If your ex or their family member you known & maybe cordial with? (Ex. His/her mom) had an health emergency or d***h would you reach out? Would you reach out even if you werent cordial with that family member?
I'm especially interested in people who's break up/ relationship wasn't that bad. Have you ever been in this situation? If these circumstances happen would it change how you view your NO CONTACT?

Please dont talk about the gym, I already do that. Really not interested in hearing "focus on your goals" whether im in a relationship or not, my goals get completed. I want to hear someone talk about some different stuff tjat I never thought of before thanks 😀

Starting no contact Day 1 of two different people that I used to “date” (not at the same time). There is no purpose of being friends or staying in contact. Access is denied.