u/UniquelyUnicorn

I’m planning on taking a 7 day trip to Bozeman to Jackson Hole and need a bit of help to make my itinerary. I’m thinking of taking the trip mid September. The plan is to fly into Bozeman and explore Montana for a couple of days and then head to Jackson Hole to explore for at least 3 days before heading back to Bozeman to fly back home. I’m still trying to figure out lodging so any advice would be helpful! I’m renting a car through Turo!

Some of the activities and places that are for sure on my list are:

•glacier national park
•Yellowstone national park
•The Old Saloon
•Grand Teton

These are some of the food places I heard were amazing but correct me if it’s not!

•Wild Crumb
•Mainstreet Overeasy
•Blackbird
•Plonk
•Cowboy Coffee co
•Persephone Bakery
•Local Restaurant and Bar

6 years ago, I was single and trying to rebuild my life after leaving an abusive 8-year relationship with my ex-fiancé. The first year was incredibly hard, but little by little I found peace again. Eventually, I got lonely and downloaded dating apps. I wasn’t looking for anything serious, and I made that very clear to everyone I matched with. Then I met “JDoe.” From the beginning, I told him I only wanted something casual, and he felt the same way. He was only 24 at the time, and honestly neither of us expected anything real to come from it. What was supposed to be a one-night stand slowly turned into texting every single day from morning to night. We connected on such an intense level emotionally. We trauma bonded in a way, and it felt like we understood each other deeply. I think that scared both of us, and eventually we drifted apart. Over the years, we both moved on and got into relationships. He moved away, but every now and then we’d still check in on each other. Eventually, after about 2 years, communication completely stopped. Fast forward to recently: I’m engaged, and out of nowhere he messages me again. I could immediately tell he wasn’t doing well mentally. We reconnected, and I learned that the relationship he was in had become mentally and physically abusive. He told me she controlled almost every aspect of his life. As we started talking again, all the feelings from years ago came flooding back. He would vent to me constantly about feeling trapped, and I tried to help because I understood exactly what that kind of relationship feels like. Leaving an abusive relationship is never simple. Then one day he told me: “She just told me she’s pregnant, and she wants to keep it.” Month after month, I watched his mental health decline. Eventually he decided to move back home temporarily because he said he needed to get into a healthier mindset for the sake of his child. He broke up with her, moved back, and we started seeing each other again. I told him the timing was wrong. Leaving a pregnant ex and starting something with me felt messy and complicated. But at the same time, I understood why he wanted out and why he wanted to mentally get himself together before becoming a father. I knew seeing him was wrong, I’m cheating on my husband mentally and physcially but I couldn’t pull myself away from JDoe. Eventually we hooked up, and over the next few months we continued seeing each other in secret and talked every single day. Then came the day he had to fly back for the birth of his daughter. We cried saying goodbye. I truly thought that would be the end of it. But it wasn’t. He kept messaging me. Kept telling me that once things settled down, he’d come back and we’d finally start a life together.The truth is, I know this situation is toxic. I know we probably aren’t good for each other. But neither of us seems capable of fully letting go, and emotionally I feel stuck.

I need advice on how to let him go.