Please help us with Cheater and toxic dad.
I 18 (M) who have just gave neet this year and my elder sister (21) in her last semester of college. My mother is a kind loving housewife and my dad is a government employ who earns decently enough. So this was around 2015 when I was 7 years and sister was 11 years he confessed to mom about him cheating because that woman was blackmailing him. A lot of chaos and fights happened then . We were financially dependent on him and mom couldn't seek help from maternal grandparents because because of my dad only our relations with them got bad . They still don't know about this cheating incident. This incident traumatized me my sister and my mother the most. She got heart problem and has been taking medicines since then. But she had to forgive but whenever later she used to confront him about this incident he used to shout at her, abuse her and beat her once . Whenever she used to confront him that she got heart problem because of him he used to blame her only that it is all because of your mind only. But we had given him 2nd chance we thought everything is normal but no.Years later in may 2026 we got his chats and found he is again cheating! He was talking about long drive vulgur message and even sent a reel to that other women where a man was cheating on her dead wife. He even sent money and many more messages were deleted.we took all the screenshots.He was planning to meet her at evening which we found through chats but told us at morning that he had to go to servicing of car. All of those things make sense that he was lying. We got so much angry on him that when he returned we confronted him abused him then that asshole told my sister ' tujhe maar dunga tu nikal ja yaha se ' like wtf bro. Because of this incident my sister started getting panic attacks and has to taken to doctor.
And we now also found his emails of him in dating apps from 2019-2020 like what married man with kids has to do in dating apps . We never questioned him where he goes what he do in phone till late in the night he used to go party with his friends 4-5 times in a month and return back after 12 midnight. It all started making sense that hes been cheating all these years .
He always kept us in bare minimum. He only gives my mom 1 k per month and no pocket money to us. Whenever we used to fall sick and ask him for money he looks disappointed. He never taken us to doctor by car we had to manage ourself only while this mf has is taking other women to long drives. He used to do work of his female staff happily take them but whenever we used to ask for us he used to shout at us.
Because of him my mom and sister got mental problems. So now since that incident we stopped talking with his stopped doing his work. Still we cook food eat and he eat afterwards. Yesterday this mf said ' ek limit tak hi tolerate karunga' like wtf bro still in this situation you are getting food to eat you should feel grateful.
My sister and mom is afraid what if he stopped giving us money. What should we do in this case how to handle all of these. Please tell.