u/UnknownFluffee

UPDATE: it's been about a week and a half, and I've finally gotten everything sorted out. The process took longer than I thought because it had been a holiday weekend, mother's and my mom's birthday shortly after.

After careful consideration and reading all the replies, I decided I needed to start separating myself from the situation asap, I didn't want to be on a lease that had me liable for damages while I'm not there, all that stuff everyone was saying. I spent the week calling the townhouse office, and the utility company explaining everything that had happened. Honestly, I was expecting the entire process to be stressful, complicated, and full of arguments but surprisingly, everything went much smoother than I thought it would.

The utility representatives I spoke to were actually really understanding and patient. They cancelled it all within the week, and my brother arranged to have his own set up after it ended. And as for my name on the lease, we had me sign to be taken off it without issue, turns out my brother and his gf are fine on their own I guess.. Not my problem. I had spent the whole night after my first post anxious thinking I was going to end up trapped in contracts or financially responsible for things connected to a place I wasn’t even allowed to live in anymore, so having everything handled calmly was honestly a huge relief.

The only thing that ended up being more complicated was the phone plan. Since the phone account was under my name and had financing attached to it, I originally planned on removing his line completely too. At first I was frustrated enough that I just wanted everything disconnected immediately. But after talking things through more calmly, we ended up coming to an agreement instead. The phone stays active as long as he continues making the payments on it himself and keeps up with the bill. It took a bit more discussion and figuring things out than the utilities did, but eventually we found a solution that worked for both of us without it turning into another fight.

In the end, there wasn’t really any screaming match or dramatic fallout like I expected. It was mostly just disappointing and sad. Everything was handled a lot more smoothly and maturely than I thought it would be

We decided to stay in good terms, even after all that happened I had alot of time to think about why he did what he did, as shitty as it was to me. He apologized, he promised to help me with anything in the future, and I definitely won't be doing this kind of stuff for him again either.. Sorry it's not that eventful of an update 💔

AITA for getting so upset at my brother for kicking me out of a townhouse I hadn't even moved into yet?

I, 22 F, recently got a text yesterday from my brother 20 M about a townhouse we had signed and set utilities up for.

He texted me that he decided to kick me off the lease of a place I helped him get approved for. A place I haven't even moved into yet. I was set to move in two months. I signed for that place with the understanding that him, his girlfriend and I were all going to live together in. It's a three bedroom, two bathroom. Has a top floor middle floor and basement. It's got some pretty decent space for three people. The idea of living together was to help cut living costs and support each other while I get back on my feet financially. I am 10k in credit card debt due to some family issues that occurred that was put onto me. Having this arranged was to help all of us build for a better future, so that we all could split costs evenly and figure out how to proceed in the future. Instead, after everything I’ve done for him over the years, he turned around and decided I’m no longer welcome there because he wants it for himself. After months of looking for a place for all three of us. He texts me that I'm no longer welcome.

What hurts the most is that I’ve spent years helping him with everything he needed. I helped him get internet, utilities, his phone, and so much more. He’s relied on my credit for years because mine was better than his. Even though he makes over 3x what I do working while I survive off Aish because of some pretty heavy disabilities. I hardly survive each month, can't afford very much. Yet I've still had better credit than him. and despite that, I’m the one being pushed out and left struggling to figure things out alone.

I’ve been trying my best to survive, but things have gotten so hard that I’ve been eating dry noodles for the past month just trying to make things stretch. Anything other than that is rare. My fridge is empty, I'm living in my grandmas basement. I was so excited to finally have a life, to figure things out, to have my brothers support. But I guess things don't always go the way we planned.

He tried to make every excuse in the book for his decision but then just flat out told me afterwards that he was doing it because he wants it for himself. He could have thought about it before we had done everything and got it all sorted out. He could have thought about it the months we had been planning. It sort of in a way feels like he was using me to get approved. I have 710 credit score and he and his girlfriend are both under the 400-300 mark.. We got approval because I had good credit, he got his utilities and phone because of me because they wouldn't accept him for anything, I've helped him with it all. And now I'm stuck struggling

I told him I was done, and not providing those things for him any more.

But I feel terrible, he's my brother and I love him. Am I over reacting? AITA for this?