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My wife(40) & I(39), married 19yrs, have a disagreement and I'm not sure how to properly say what I need to say.
She struck a heartstring (or just a nerve?) with me when asking me to take her car tomorrow, to run the kids to things, so that I could get her gas.
She has mentioned it before, when taking her car out, that she needs gas. Or sometimes she wouldn't tell me, but I'd get down the road to see that she's nearing empty.
I am the provider, she does have a job- 3hrs 4 days a week. So I bring up that she should just get gas while she's out in town, after work. My responsibilities in the house are many, all finances, maintenance, etc. Alongng with working main job and running a business on the side.
I am trying to get her to be more responsible, because her mom didn't teach her a lot of that. Along with yes, even her mom lives on site with us. I feel like I'm drowning inside because I'm giving my all. So I have been trying to think of boundaries to set to keep myself from being constantly overwhelmed.
I believe if she is the one driving her vehicle (that we just got a week ago, and I got her older vehicle), that she should be responsible enough to get her own gas.
I did get worked up, not telling or raising my voice, but she says my tone is the problem and why she refuses a conversation with me. She ended up in tears, so now she says were fighting.
I just want to be able to have a conversation with her to be able to tell her how swamped by everything I'm constantly doing, and hoping that she's empathetic enough to want to take some things off my plate, much less ask me to get her gas since that would be really her only responsibility having that vehicle.
She says for the past year that she thinks I'm trying to make her less dependent me. I just want her to step up and be a Partner, and to take on some things. But really, we haven't even had a conversation about any of it.
I'm so lost on how to begin to try to convey all of this. I feel so defeated. Like I've lost the ability to try and talk and get to a place of understanding and to work through things together.