I 21m, caught my 20f girlfriend texting another guy
A couple months ago I made a fake account to test my gf, due to her hiding her phone and being secretive about guys that liked her that she is still in contact with. I know I shouldn’t be making fake accounts but it is what it is.
I made her confess on the fake account by saying “tell him or I will”, because we had been flirting for a few days and I was so sick to my stomach I couldn’t go on longer.
There was no sexting but it was very flirty, including pictures she would send. She even agreed to go on a date after 1 day of talking.
I told her a couple times that cheating was my biggest fear after she asked. She always said she would never but here we are, I don’t know if I can ever trust her again. I know just texting isn’t so bad but even entertaining the account is enough for me to feel betrayed.
This happened at 10 months and I was about to buy a promise ring for our 1 year, as we had both talked about it multiple times. I believe she is genuinely sorry as she was sobbing and begging in my arms after telling me, but I don’t know if she can change.
We are still together and we always had talks of working through things as we have similar end goals in life. I’m wondering if I’m over reacting because it was just flirting and nothing actually sexual going on.
Now I feel indifferent and when I see pictures of her I’m just disappointed, wondering how she could throw away the “best year of her life”. When I think about it I might not even care if she cheats on me again, I would just leave because I know I did it to myself at that point.
In conclusion I love her and I would love to stay with her, but I’m not sure if she can or will change, or if I can accept and trust that she has changed.