Boundaries when moving in
So my boyfriend was the “caretaker” of his sister when his mom would be at work or wanted to do something without her. Now that I am in the picture and we moved out, his sister has automatically moved out with us. She is constantly moving into our home and then sometimes being with his mom and then dropped back off. Once she was practically living with us. I never exactly had this discussion with my boyfriend I just assumed she wouldn’t be living here. His mom has told us that we first moved it would be temporary and she would be living on her own in an apartment and she would help her out there. However that was a year ago when she said that. I’m frustrated because his sister is like. 10 year with a 16 year olds attitude. She is autistic but makes everything about her. She said at the hospital while I was miscarrying, what about my cramps (her period is the end of the world you know) I’ve become resentful but I wonder sometimes if boundaries would have prevented this. Any thoughts about this? Don’t be rude please. I was nice in the beginning but every time I did something nice she would treat me like shit. She does that to everyone. We will be moving in the future and I just don’t want this to happen. His mom is very controlling, doesnt ask just does. Says “she’ll be there this day or this time” when she was unmedicated her behavior was terrible and we couldn’t have time together cause she would be wanting to send her back home within 3 hours, even if she said she would take her for the whole weekend, shed be trying to send her back Friday night. I’m sorry for the people who might be upset or offended. I was in a long distance relationship and had 10 years independence before I moved in with him (I hardly have family myself anymore) so I might be easily frustrated with the situation or biased. I used to like her but she burned me out quickly with her behavior and how her mom acts. She was in a day program but only went 2 days a week and complained non stop about it. What do you think I should do?