normal fighting or abuse?
i am a feminine presenting woman, i am small, weighing in at about 110. my partner is a masculine/butch presenting woman and is at a physical advantage to me. We have had problems with hitting, a lot. i have anger issues, i am not saying it’s her fault only, usually the fights are 50/50.
the other day i was driving my car with her as passenger and she told me to pull over, i was upset and did not listen, and she grabbed my wheel and tried to drive my car for me. my instant reaction was to protect myself and my car, fighting against her grabbing my wheel. in that tussle i had slapped her in the face, by accident. i mean i was trying to “hit” but not in a hurtful way, it felt like defense. immediately after i slapped her face she punched me in my jaw so hard that i stopped the car and immediately started bawling and ran outside into the rain to just cry.
my partner told me that she didn’t mean to punch me in the face and that her body meant to but her mind shut off and it went black. i have told this story in the most unbiased way possible to a few trusted sources and i have been told to become wary of it being an abuse situation, as similar things have happened before.
so, is it abuse, or just a regular fight between two hurt people who are accidental hurting each other?