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GUYS. MY TOP SURGERY CONSULTATION IS TOMORROW!!! 😭😭
I’ve been waiting for this appointment for MONTHS, and it’s finally here. I’m seeing Dr. Buckley tomorrow, and I genuinely cannot believe it’s happening. It still doesn’t feel real.
I’m so excited, but I’m also nervous because this is something I’ve thought about so much. I’ve spent so much time researching, thinking about my goals, and imagining what I want my chest to look like. I want a natural, masculine, athletic chest that fits the person I’m becoming, and I’m finally getting to talk through all of that with my surgeon.
I even wrote out all my aesthetic goals and questions because I KNOW I’m going to be nervous and don’t want to forget anything. 😂
I’m trying to remind myself that tomorrow is a consultation, not the day I have to have everything figured out. I just get to talk about my goals, ask questions, and take the next step toward something I’ve wanted for a long time.
I’m feeling about a million emotions at once, but mostly I’M SO EXCITED. 😭❤️

If you’ve had your consultation already, how did you feel the night before? And for anyone who has seen Dr. Buckley, I’d love to hear about your experience!

I’ve followed this trans creator for a while and genuinely looked up to him. He’s openly shared a lot of his transition and top-surgery journey publicly, including his results, so I really admired him and his outcome.
I’m currently preparing for my own top-surgery consultation, and I’ve been trying to figure out how to communicate the aesthetic I want to my surgeon. Some of his results were helpful references for me.
I saw him on TikTok Live and asked if I could DM him a few questions about his top surgery. He said yes. So I messaged him.
I asked about things like his scar placement, nipple/areola choices, whether he had specifically discussed certain aesthetic details with his surgeon, and whether he had clear photos I could use as a reference. I wasn’t trying to be invasive or disrespectful. I was asking because I’m going through the process myself and genuinely admired his results.
Then I realized he had blocked me.
And honestly, that hurt. Not because I think he owes me answers. I completely understand that someone sharing their surgery journey publicly doesn’t mean they owe strangers private access to their body, medical information, or time. If he had said he didn’t want to answer my questions, I would’ve respected that.
What really confused me was that I specifically asked if I could DM him, he said yes, I followed that invitation, and then I got blocked.
I think part of why it hit me so hard is because I’ve followed him for a while and genuinely looked up to him. I wasn’t some random person trying to be invasive. I saw someone whose journey helped me picture my own future and thought he might be willing to share a little advice.
I don’t know if something I said came across differently than I intended, or if he simply changed his mind. I obviously won’t contact him again and I’ll respect the block.
Am I wrong for feeling hurt and confused by the situation?